I am Often Asked how to Keep our Lives Calm!

Here are some brilliant ways to keep calmness in your life.

We need to change our perception and our thoughts to a way of calmness and love. Using Louise Hay’s affirmation “Life Loves You” while standing in front of a mirror and repeating this ten times, acknowledging the thoughts and feelings that come up. Make sure you let go of all the negative thoughts coming from your ego or inner critic. Be kind and loving to yourself.

Many of the actions below have been taken from “The Little Book of Calm”, by Paul Wilson

  1. Select your company well. As harsh as it may sound, mixing with highly stressed people will make you feel stressed. On the other hand, mixing with calm people will leave you feeling calm even for the briefest period.
  2. Invest in a fruit bowl. The more beautiful your bowl, the better stocked it is, the less likely you are to turn to stress-enhancing snack foods. Eat more fruit, and you will feel more relaxed – it’s as sweet as that.
  3. Worry when the time comes. Most worries are future-based. They revolve around things that, in most cases, will never happen. Concentrate on the present, and the future will take care of itself.
  4. Pamper your feet. Soak your feet, then massage them with moisturiser or a relaxing combination of essential oils. You will feel blissfully relaxed in no time. You can read my post about massaging your feet here.
  5. Wet face towel. As any beauty therapist or barber will tell you, nothing soaks away facial stress and tension quite so efficiently as a damp hot towel. You can read about my natural face treatment here.
  6. Reaffirm your friendships. If you tend to get overly serious with your work or responsibilities, remind yourself that the most common deathbed regrets relate to neglected relationships, not unfinished business.
  7. Think before you buy. To avoid the stresses of debt, think about what you can afford to spend long before thinking about what you would like to buy.
  8. Sleep on a patchouli pillow. Add three drops of patchouli or chamomile oil to your pillow every few nights for a blissfully calm sleep.

Contact Rosemary if you would like more information on staying calm or learning meditation.

How Can the Mind and Body Benefit From Relaxation?

Practising relaxation techniques has many benefits.

Benefits to the body: –

  • Slowing your heart rate.
  • Slowing your breathing.
  • Reducing your blood pressure.
  • The blood flow to primary muscles is increased.
  • Greatly reducing chronic pain and muscle tension.
  • Major body systems, circulatory, immune, respiratory, and gastrointestinal will function better.
  • Many common health conditions improve when regularly practising relaxation, asthma, heartburn, PMT, some skin disorders are a few examples.

Benefits to our mental health: –

  • Calms your mind and brings you into the present
  • Able to sleep better.
  • Helps you control your emotions.
  • Helps you focus and increase your concentration.
  • Can improve anxiety, depression, and panic attacks.
  • Reducing stress.

There are many ways to relax and improve our health.

  • Read a book.
  • Listen to calming music.
  • Have a relaxing bath.
  • Take a walk in nature.
  • Take up painting or drawing.
  • Many hobbies help us relax.
  • Tai Chi, Chi gong classes
  • Meditation and mindfulness

Although I personally love meditation I know it is not for everyone. The aim of relaxation is to enable our minds to be totally immersed in what we are doing. We are therefore in the present not worrying about the past or future.

Soul Essence runs a fortnightly online meditation group Tuesday evenings.

What is your excuse for why you can’t meditate?

Examples of excuses and reasons that you can meditate.

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My mind is too busy – don’t worry, while you are sitting meditating you will become aware of your busy and chaotic mind, which meditation will help to unwind. You will experience lots of thoughts, feelings and possibly emotions.  It doesn’t matter how you feel whilst meditating, concentrate on how you feel after and for the rest of the day.

I get too fidgety – you don’t have to sit still, you just need to be comfortable, if you fidget do so it will lessen the more you meditate.

My anxiety kicks in – while all your negative thoughts are coming up that would be normal. Meditating and learning breathing exercises will calm you.

Sitting still is my worst nightmare – then consider going for a walk in the park or woods, without earphones in, listening to nature. You could learn yoga, Qi gong or tai chi where you meditate moving. The art is to just “be” not always “doing”

I don’t like it – if you have tried one type of meditation and it was not for you, there are other types out there.  Here are a few transcendental, mantra, breathing, visualisation, guided and there are many more.

I am too busy – How much time do you waste looking at Social Media, watching TV, playing games online? You only need 20 minutes a day to feel the benefit.Candles, Orchid and Some White Pebbles

Relax and be Calm

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Soul Essence will be holding Saturday workshops soon

Dates, Venue and costs to be advised

My first will be – simple meditation to help people relax and be calm

The day will include:

How to relax and stay calm

Clearing our minds

Some meditations

TO BE PUT ON A LIST FOR MORE INFORMATION WHEN I HAVE BOOKED A VENUE contact me

I will be doing workshops on the following subjects, Inner child, relationships, anger and intermediate meditation.

If you have a subject you would like, let me know and I will try to put it together