How to Increase your Confidence and Self-Esteem for Success

How do you see yourself? Do you feel like a superhero? If the answer is no, and you do not believe you will do well in the world, you probably will not. We manifest what you believe, not what you want. Start to improve your confidence and self-esteem by believing in yourself.

Here are some suggestions: –

  • Improve your mind – Self-confidence starts in the mind.  Setting yourself some “me time” to nurture your mind, body, and spirit for an hour a day if possible, is a good habit to form. I like to read, meditate, walk, and do some light exercise. If you do not take time for yourself, you allow the opportunity for someone or something else to shape your perspective of the world.
  • Stop the negative thoughts – how negative is your self-talk? Practising mindfulness or meditation is a great way to reprogramme our negative thoughts. Positive affirmations as you go to sleep, or doing the housework also helps.
  • Learning – we should never stop learning, whether this is a professional course, a hobby, a spiritual practise, these all help our personal growth. By completing a course or project helps our confidence.
  • Impostor syndrome – it is so easy to tell ourselves what we have created in our lives was all down to luck, and let the feelings of inadequacy and fear set in.  We need to learn to adopt ways to accept our accomplishments, chatting with our peers helps with this.
  • Dress – During the recent lockdowns, many of us are working from home and staying in our PJs. If you want success, you need to get up and dress like you would if you were going to the office. When you look good, you feel good, which will then show in your attitude and confidence.
  • Learning a skill – public speaking, amateur dramatics, anything where you are in front of an audience, helps you think and react quickly. Any of these will help at meetings and improve your confidence massively.
  • Your value – self-confidence is not all about the success you have in business. You also need to find ways to connect with yourself and grow. This could be volunteering, meditating, exercise workout, and going out with friends. It needs to help you see your value outside of your work, even if your work is a parent.

Soul-Essence runs a fortnightly online meditation group email rosemary@soul-essence.com if you would like more information on meditation, energy healing or integral core therapy.

What is your excuse for why you can’t meditate?

Examples of excuses and reasons that you can meditate.

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My mind is too busy – don’t worry, while you are sitting meditating you will become aware of your busy and chaotic mind, which meditation will help to unwind. You will experience lots of thoughts, feelings and possibly emotions.  It doesn’t matter how you feel whilst meditating, concentrate on how you feel after and for the rest of the day.

I get too fidgety – you don’t have to sit still, you just need to be comfortable, if you fidget do so it will lessen the more you meditate.

My anxiety kicks in – while all your negative thoughts are coming up that would be normal. Meditating and learning breathing exercises will calm you.

Sitting still is my worst nightmare – then consider going for a walk in the park or woods, without earphones in, listening to nature. You could learn yoga, Qi gong or tai chi where you meditate moving. The art is to just “be” not always “doing”

I don’t like it – if you have tried one type of meditation and it was not for you, there are other types out there.  Here are a few transcendental, mantra, breathing, visualisation, guided and there are many more.

I am too busy – How much time do you waste looking at Social Media, watching TV, playing games online? You only need 20 minutes a day to feel the benefit.Candles, Orchid and Some White Pebbles