How to Heal Your Inner Child

What is your inner child?

Your inner child is the child you were, with both negative and positive aspects. Our unmet needs, our suppressed childhood emotions along with our childlike innocence, creativity and joy are all still within us.

Our repressed emotions are are the things we learnt to do or to feel to allow our parents to love us. Examples; if you only received attention when you were good, your inner child maybe rebellious, sad or angry. If you were part of trauma or abuse your inner child would hide pain and fear to survive. By accessing your inner child you find the roots of issues or patterns in your life as an adult.

Signs of having a wounded inner child are:

  • Low self-esteem, poor body image
  • Mood and emotional imbalances
  • Problems with boundaries being too rigid or too weak
  • Problems with eating
  • Harming yourself
  • Psychosexual difficulties
  • Identity problems being a rebel/a hoarder/ a bully/ a perennial victim or a super-achiever
  • Intimacy problems
  • Commitment problems
  • A general lack of trust in yourself and others
  • Criminal behaviour, excessive lying
  • Being ‘overly- responsible’ for others
  • Being fiercely competitive and a poor loser
  • Dependencies and addictions
  • Obsessive and needy behaviour
  • Fear of authority figures
  • Being manipulative, passive or aggressive

We are not born with any of these issues, they are created in our subconscious by our environment and people during our informative years. Our informative years between birth and seven years old is the time when we absorb our experiences and are unable to verbalise our thoughts.

We create masks to hold and conceal our low self-esteem, family trauma, secrets and our shame. These are often not spoken about; however, they affect how we were treated by our family and friends. We need to be able to accept that we were shamed, ignored or betrayed by our parents and how this has truly wounded our soul/inner child. Our parents were not bad they were just wounded kids themselves.

We show these masks when we have negative thoughts, emotions, self-doubt or self-loathing that overwhelms us and we are then more likely to turn to drugs, food and alcohol to numb the feelings. Therapy will help you peel off the masks that we created as children to help us survive these experiences; once we begin to do this, we can then live lives without having to numb our feeling and emotions with stimulants.

Things You Can Do Yourself:

  • Take a few moments to think about the happy memories of your childhood.
  • Remind yourself how special you were and still are.
  • When the inner critic voice surfaces, stop… take some deep breaths reply to yourself with a soothing, comforting, nurturing inner voice.
  • Tell the inner child (you as a child) how much she is loved, valued and appreciated.
  • Your inner child has nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of, none of this was her/his fault.
  • Watch loving mothers with their babies and absorb the loving energy.
  • Imagine sitting with your inner child (you as a baby or toddler).
  • Allow the true feelings of your childhood to emerge and let the emotions flow. Let the tears flow and to release the anger hit a pillow.

If doing any of the above brings up anger and shock, then you are on the path to healing, shock is the beginning of grief. Do not feel bad about feeling angry, even if none of your wounding was intentional. Your parents did the best they could as wounded adults themselves.

As victimised children, we must grieve our betrayal and shame, what may have been our dreams or goals in life, and our unfulfilled developmental needs.

We must help our wounded inner child realise there was nothing he/she could have done differently, the pain of what happened to him/her is what needs to be grieved and healed.

When we feel we are bad or contaminated, this shame can lead to loneliness. Our inner child may feel flawed and defective; therefore they cover up their true self, with their mask/defence they used to get through life, creating a false self. Their true self, therefore, feels isolated. As we work on this level through therapy we can embrace the feelings and heal the self that has been in hiding. What we hide from others we hide from ourselves also. In coming to terms with our shame, abandonment and hidden feelings we begin to embrace and love our true self/soul.

If you have more questions, then email me at https://soul-essence.com/contact/

 

Suffering Panic Attacks – How to Help Yourself Cope in Life

Most of us have experienced anxiety at some time in our lives. That tense feeling, being hesitant and fearful of an approaching exam, test or interview. These situations are normally short-term and can be useful; they may make you more alert in an exam. However, the feelings may overwhelm you making you unable to concentrate.

 

We have all heard of the “Fight or flight” reflex, this reflex was to protect us from danger, give us the extra energy to run away. For this to happen, the anxious feelings and the fear trigger the release of a hormone called adrenalin. Adrenalin makes your heart beat faster to carry your blood to the organs which most need it. Your breathing increases to obtain more oxygen, you will sweat to stop you overheating. There are many other changes that take place in your body to help you cope with the impending danger. Once the danger has passed other hormones are released to help you relax. The “Fight of flight” reflex is very useful to help you run away from danger, however, when you want to run away from things like exams, driving tests it is not so useful because your body will take much longer to relax and you will be in an agitated state for longer. If the anxiety stays at high levels for long periods of time, you may find life difficult to deal with. The longer this goes on for, the more powerless and out of control, you may feel. If this feeling of fear or anxiety begins to overwhelm you the next stage is “Panic attacks”

Panic attacks are the exaggerated response of the body to fear and stress. You often get palpitations in your heart, possibly feeling faint, nauseous, chest pains, difficulty breathing and many more. You may start to feel you are going to have a heart attack and die. Attacks come on quickly and last from five to twenty minutes, those suffering them for longer are experiencing several attacks one after the other.

Anxiety and panic attacks can be a combination of factors. Something distressing happening to you in the past (possibly in childhood) and you were unable to deal with the emotions at the time. If things happen to you now which trigger that distress the anxiety and the emotions which have not been dealt with, and possibly trigger a panic attack. Your parents may have been anxious people and therefore this has been learnt by you in your early life.

Unfortunately, anxiety has an effect on your body and mind making you fearful, on edge, and unable to relax or concentrate. To cope with these feeling you might smoke, drink or use drugs as relaxants.

To stop the anxiety and panic attacks, learning to meditate and relax the mind is very helpful. Meditation is not all about sitting cross-legged on the floor; it is about learning to relax and focusing on a soothing voice or music. In my groups I do guided meditation, you focus on my voice as I take you on a relaxing journey to relax you.  Energy healing and integral core therapy, also benefits people suffering anxiety and panic attacks, we encourage you to go back to the fearful feelings and learn how you can deal with them.

My meditation groups are the 1st Wednesday of the month. I also do one to one sessions for meditation, energy healing and integral core therapy. 

If you would like advice or help please contact me.

LADIES PAMPER EVENT -Sth East London

Ladies Pamper Evening – 11th June 2015

Fundraunit logoising event for the 3rd New Eltham Guides to raise money towards activities, camps and trips abroad.

We invite you to come and try …………….Reflexology – Indian Head Massage –  Manicures – Natural Lift Face Massage – Hot Stones Massage – Ear Candling – Energy Healing  Massage, Thai foot massage and many more

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At all Saints Church Hall, Bercta Road, New Eltham SE9 3TZ (gmap) from 6:30 p.m to 10 p.m.  

 

  There will be light refreshments, a cake stall and lots of pampering available.

Admission is free.  Sessions cost between £10  and £20 for 20 – 30 minutes.

If you would like to book a session in advance please contact me.

If you are therapist and would like have a table please contact me we don’t have any spaces left for this event, however I will keep your details for future events.

We run the events once a term, during March, June and November check out my main page for the new dates.

LADIES PAMPER EVENT -Sth East London

Ladies Pamper Evening – 27th November 2014

Fundraunit logoising event for the 3rd New Eltham Guides to raise money towards activities, camps and trips abroad.

We invite you to come and try …………….Reflexology – Paraffin waxing – Indian Head Massage –  Manicures – Natural Lift Face Massage – Hot Stones Massage – Ear Candling – Energy Healing  Massage, Thai foot massage and many more

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At all Saints Church Hall, Bercta Road, New Eltham SE9 3TZ (gmap) from 6:30 p.m to 10 p.m.  

  There will be light refreshments, a cake stall and lots of pampering available.

Admission is free.  Sessions cost between £8  and £20 for 20 – 30 minutes.

If you would like to book a session in advance please contact me.

If you are therapist and would like have a table please contact me we don’t have any spaces left for this event, however I will keep your details for future events.

We run the events once a term, during March, June and November check out my main page or the fundraising page for the new dates.

Meditation

meditating

If you prefer to meditate with friends or  one to one  contact me now.

I can make the  meditation relevant to your group.  Either visualisation, chakra, breathing, let me know what type of meditation you would like and I will let you know what is involved.

Meditation is very good to help you relax , help with sleep problems, reduce your blood pressure etc

For more information about meditation see my previous posts

 About Meditation and the Benefits

Meditation Getting Started

I offer one to one sessions for £10 per half hour and groups at your house for approximately half an hour  for £8 per person within a 2 mile radius of  New Eltham.

Please contact me for more details or a quote.

Pamper Parties

Do you run a ladies group?

Running out of ideas of what to do ?

I organise and run a pamper parties for groups. You just need to provide the venue and the people and I will come along with therapists.

Treatments available:-

Reflexology, Facials with the brilliant Snail Gel if required, various massage, manicures and pedicures, waxing, paraffin waxing, reiki/healing.

Just let me know what your guests would like and I will do the  rest.

The cost of treatments vary between £10 and £15 for 20 or 30 minutes.

Soul EssenceSnail Gel

 

I have been organising pamper parties for several years now and have several repeat customers.

To let me know your requirements contact me by phone or email.

Look forward to hearing from Ladies groups big or small.

 

 

LADIES PAMPER EVENT -Sth East London

Ladies Pamper Evening – 27th November 2014

Fundraunit logoising event for the 3rd New Eltham Guides to raise money towards activities, camps and trips abroad.

We invite you to come and try …………….Reflexology – Paraffin waxing – Indian Head Massage –  Manicures – Natural Lift Face Massage – Hot Stones Massage – Ear Candling – Energy Healing  Massage, Thai foot massage and many more

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At all Saints Church Hall, Bercta Road, New Eltham SE9 3TZ (gmap) from 6:30 p.m to 10 p.m.  

  There will be light refreshments, a cake stall and lots of pampering available.

Admission is free.  Sessions cost between £8  and £20 for 20 – 30 minutes.

If you would like to book a session in advance please contact me.

If you are therapist and would like have a table please contact me we don’t have any spaces left for this event, however I will keep your details for future events.

We run the events once a term, during March, June and November check out my main page for the new dates.

Snail Gel

Dr-Organic-Snail-GelSnail Gel the potent , soothing, anti-ageing skin cream

The healing and repairing properties of the slime, which is harvested without harming the snails, the mucus from the snails is collected as they crawl over special glass and plastic surfaces. The discovery was made  by chance when Chilean snail farmers noticed their hands  healed more quickly without any scars and were very soft and smooth to the touch. The natural extract Helix Aspersia Muller the unique substance the snail produces to quickly regenerate its own shell and skin, contains a balance of beneficial substances which include glycolic acid, collagen, elastin, allantonin, vitamins and minerals.

This is how all the substances work to produce great-looking, healthy skin:

Glycolic Acid

Snail Gel contains enough glycolic acid to produce a gentle elimination of superficial dead skin cells, and to help promote their replacement with new cells, formed using the stimulus of allantoin. It also enables cleansing of pilose follicles and favours the absorption of the other natural substances contained in the snail extract.

Allantoin

A proven stimulant for skin regeneration – also effective for healing, smoothing and anti-irritation – that works by increasing water content and strengthening cell structure.

Collagen and elastin

These are structural proteins that bond skin tissue, nurture skin and improve its appearance. Collagen gives connective tissue and organs rigidity so they can function, and elastin lets them stretch and return to their original state.

Proteins and vitamins

Contribute to the constant regeneration of skin while also acting as anti-inflammatory agents.

Dr Organic snail gel is mixed with Aloe Vera which is very cooling and helps to reduce redness in the skin and it also contains lemongrass which gives it a lovely  lemon smell.  The gel feels instantly cooling and refreshing on the skin and it is a freshness that lasts and the lemon scent is very awakening.

If you would like to try the gel before buying a pot for between £20 and £25, you can book a facial with me at a pamper event or a full luxury facial at home.

LADIES PAMPER EVENT -Sth East London

Ladies Pamper Evening – 12th June 2014

Fundraunit logoising event for the 3rd New Eltham Guides to raise money towards activities, camps and trips abroad.

We invite you to come and try …………….Reflexology – Paraffin waxing – Indian Head Massage –  Manicures – Natural Lift Face Massage – Hot Stones Massage – Ear Candling – Energy Healing  Massage, Thai foot massage and many more

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At all Saints Church Hall, Bercta Road, New Eltham SE9 3TZ (gmap) from 6:30 p.m to 10 p.m.  

  There will be light refreshments, a cake stall and lots of pampering available.

Admission is free.  Sessions cost between £8  and £20 for 20 – 30 minutes.

If you would like to book a session in advance please contact me.

If you are therapist and would like have a table please contact me we don’t have any spaces left for this event, however I will keep your details for future events.

We run the events once a term, during March, June and November check out my main page for the new dates.

LADIES PAMPER EVENT -Sth East London

Ladies Pamper Evening – 20th March 2014

Fundraunit logoising event for the 3rd New Eltham Guides to raise money towards activities, camps and trips abroad.

We invite you to come and try …………….Reflexology – Paraffin waxing – Indian Head Massage –  Manicures – Natural Lift Face Massage – Hot Stones Massage – Ear Candling – Energy Healing  Massage, Thai foot massage and many more

shutterstock_8207545_RSSize(223x160)

 

 

At all Saints Church Hall, Bercta Road, New Eltham SE9 3TZ (gmap) from 6:30 p.m to 10 p.m.  

  There will be light refreshments, a cake stall and lots of pampering available.

Admission is free.  Sessions cost between £8  and £20 for 20 – 30 minutes.

If you would like to book a session in advance please contact me.

If you are therapist and would like have a table please contact me we don’t have any spaces left for this event, however I will keep your details for future events.

We run the events once a term, during March, June and November check out my main page for the new dates.