Start using meditation today and improve your health now.

Meditation can help ease your pain, anxiety, stress and improve the health of your heart, boost your immune system and mood.

Conditions which are caused or worsened by stress and tension can be helped through meditation. By relaxing in meditation, you lower your blood pressure and improve your heart rate, (please note you must continue to take any medication until your doctor advises you can) slows your breathing and brain waves. When your muscles start to relax, they release the tension and tightness. The repetition in meditation is what helps us to relax. As we focus on our breath, letting go of our thoughts, and repeating a mantra, affirmation, or word we become present, and start the relaxation response.

Meditation is not difficult to learn, it is a skill which, you need to practice. After a few weeks of practice, you will be able to get to a relaxed state more quickly. If you relax several times a day, you may find you feel more relaxed during the whole day.

There have been many studies done showing meditation can lower cardiovascular risk, by relaxing and reducing your stress. Poorly managed stress is associated with a risk of high blood pressure and heart disease.

Meditation is an immune booster. Your immune system responds to both negative and positive thoughts, meditation will create a positive mental environment for the immune system to flourish. Meditation stimulates the immune system brain-function regions.

There have been studies where HIV patients slowed down the reduction of their CD-4 cell count, using meditation. The CD-4 cells are the immune cells which keep the virus from propagating.

Knowing if meditation is working. If your body is feeling relaxed, calm, and warm when meditating, you are probably going deep enough for the relaxation response.  If you are struggling to feel these, perhaps join a group to help you.

If you really do not get on with meditation any relaxing technique would be helpful.

If you would like to join a fortnightly group online email Rosemary

How to Believe in Yourself and Bring Success into Your Life

Whatever you want from life, be it better health, a promotion at work, being more creative, you need to believe you can reach the goal.

What is the goal you want to achieve? What are your beliefs about this goal?

Here are some health goals you may consider, getting 7-8 hours of sleep daily, 30-60 minutes of exercise regularly, being free of addictions, and plan daily spiritual timelike yoga or meditation.

Business goals maybe, retain or gain more customers, or start using social media to build your business.

Personal goals maybe, self-development, learn a new skill or hobby, let go of the past, travel, or be more creative.

All of the above goals are much easier to achieve if you to believe in yourself.

If you want to start meditating to gain all the health benefits, you need to believe you can make it happen. If we start by saying it is hard or I can’t do it, I have too many thoughts, we will not get very far with the practise and give up.

Believing in ourselves.

Many of us have negative beliefs from childhood buried in our subconscious. These beliefs often form our negative self-talk and stop us from being successful in life. A good practice is to stand in front of the mirror in the morning, and before you go to bed and listen to your self-talk when a negative thought comes to mind, counteract it with positive words. An example, “I am not creative” simply say, “my creativity is unique and good”. By doing this, you remind yourself of the truth of your abilities before your mind absorbed the negativity in your environment as a child.

If you are often around people who are negative and put you down, start to spend less time with them. Spend time with people who give you encouragement and help. If you do not want to be held back from success, limiting your time with negative people is helpful. Negativity is contagious, like flu.

Only you can believe in yourself, ask yourself, “how would the person I wish to be, act in this situation?” Act like the person you want to be; let go of your self-doubts.   If you would like to learn more about letting go of limiting beliefs holding you back from success or learning how to meditate to improve your life, email Rosemary

How to Love Yourself and Bring Happiness in Your Life

When we are born, we feel loveable, providing we receive love from our parents and environment during our informative years and beyond, we will grow up feeling loved and not judging ourselves. When this does not happen, often because our parents did not love themselves, we are more likely to struggle with self-judgement as adults.

We all have an inner critic, that inner voice that is constantly telling us we cannot do things, or we are not good enough, we are not loveable and many more. This is our ego speaking; our ego comes from fear. Our truth, the unconditioned self, comes from love and lets us know we are loveable. Love is much more than a feeling; it is our true nature, the consciousness, our essence, our soul, and our spiritual DNA.

If your inner critic is regularly berating you, you may wish to look into ways to learn how to love yourself. Louise Hay recommends using mirror work to help people to do this. She suggests you look in the mirror every morning and repeat the affirmation “Life loves me” ten times. Notice your responses; sensations may be tension in your body, feelings may be sadness or happiness, and thoughts maybe I cannot do this. Do not judge your responses; there are no right or wrong answers. Just be honest with yourself. Life loves you is about unconditional love.

Once you have completed the above, repeat with the affirmation, “I am willing to let life love me today”, repeat until you feel comfortable sensations in your body. Be willing to work with these affirmations, and all things are possible.

Doing mirror work can be confronting at first, revealing your fears and self-judgements, be kind to yourself. By continuing to do the mirror work, you will start to move through your fears and self-judgements.  If you have had serious trauma in your life, I recommend doing this with a therapist or trusted friend. Remember, life mirrors how you feel. Your relationship with yourself influences your relationship with everyone and everything.

Therefore, once we can love ourselves, and are able receive love, our life will become so much happier.

If you would like any help or further information please email Rosemary

I am Often Asked how to Keep our Lives Calm!

Here are some brilliant ways to keep calmness in your life.

We need to change our perception and our thoughts to a way of calmness and love. Using Louise Hay’s affirmation “Life Loves You” while standing in front of a mirror and repeating this ten times, acknowledging the thoughts and feelings that come up. Make sure you let go of all the negative thoughts coming from your ego or inner critic. Be kind and loving to yourself.

Many of the actions below have been taken from “The Little Book of Calm”, by Paul Wilson

  1. Select your company well. As harsh as it may sound, mixing with highly stressed people will make you feel stressed. On the other hand, mixing with calm people will leave you feeling calm even for the briefest period.
  2. Invest in a fruit bowl. The more beautiful your bowl, the better stocked it is, the less likely you are to turn to stress-enhancing snack foods. Eat more fruit, and you will feel more relaxed – it’s as sweet as that.
  3. Worry when the time comes. Most worries are future-based. They revolve around things that, in most cases, will never happen. Concentrate on the present, and the future will take care of itself.
  4. Pamper your feet. Soak your feet, then massage them with moisturiser or a relaxing combination of essential oils. You will feel blissfully relaxed in no time. You can read my post about massaging your feet here.
  5. Wet face towel. As any beauty therapist or barber will tell you, nothing soaks away facial stress and tension quite so efficiently as a damp hot towel. You can read about my natural face treatment here.
  6. Reaffirm your friendships. If you tend to get overly serious with your work or responsibilities, remind yourself that the most common deathbed regrets relate to neglected relationships, not unfinished business.
  7. Think before you buy. To avoid the stresses of debt, think about what you can afford to spend long before thinking about what you would like to buy.
  8. Sleep on a patchouli pillow. Add three drops of patchouli or chamomile oil to your pillow every few nights for a blissfully calm sleep.

Contact Rosemary if you would like more information on staying calm or learning meditation.

How Trapped Emotions Cause Distress, Pain, and Muscle Tension in our Bodies.

Many of us carry repressed and trapped energy or emotions within the cells of our bodies, and we are completely unaware of them. We journey through life, oblivious to the blocked energy our cells and muscles are holding. Is this blocked suppressed energy causing your health condition and suffering? Every cell in our body has a memory, not just our brain cells.

The cause of Muscle Tension.

There are four different causes, your conditioning as a child, trauma, psychological tension, and your environment.

From when we are born to approximately seven years old we absorbed everything going on in our environment. A fair amount of our muscle tension is developed at this time and continues into adulthood. One of the unspoken beliefs we were taught as children, so we were acceptable or likable was “only babies cry”, so during our early years we learned to suppress our tears and sadness in order “not to be a baby”.  Many of us were punished for showing anger, therefore as children we thought it was bad to show anger and not taught how to deal with it positively.  All this energy is stuck somewhere in our bodies causing us pain or illness.

Traumatic experiences can range from being smacked to extreme abuse as a child. The trauma may have been deliberate (rape or assault) or accidental (car crash or other accident). These experiences can result in fear, stress and possibly even PTSD if they are not consciously dealt with.  All the anxiety, fear, anger, and grief are stored in your body, becoming muscle tension, and contributing to other illnesses, like fibromyalgia, digestive disorders, mental illnesses, and even cancer.

Psychological tension develops from our perceptions of life and causes anxiety, frustration, sadness, or anger. The more negative, fearful, or fault-finding our perspective is, the more tension we will store.

Our environment and habits also contribute to our muscle tension. Working at a desk all day and not exercising our muscles does not allow any tension to be released. Poor posture, lack of sleep, drug use, unhealthy eating, and environmental pollution tend to increase the likelihood of developing chronic muscle tension.

In Louise Hay’s book Heal your body, she writes about the probable cause of mental thought patterns have on the various parts of the body.

Shoulder Tension = Burden and Responsibilities.

Our shoulders represent our ability to carry out our experiences in life with joy. We make life a burden with our attitude. We have all heard the expression “carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders”. Louise’s affirmation is, “I choose to allow all my experiences to be joyous and loving.

Neck Tension = Fear and Repressed Self-Expression.

Our neck represents flexibility. Refusing to see other sides of a question. Stubbornness, inflexibility, and issues with communication. Affirmation “It is with flexibility and ease that I see all sides of an issue. There are endless ways to do things and see things. I am safe”.

Our back represents the support of life.

Upper Back = Grief, Sorrow, and Sadness.

Lack of emotional support, feeling unloved, holding back love.  We store our grief, sorrow, and sadness in this part of our back. Louise’s affirmations “I love and approve of myself, life supports and loves me”.

Middle Back – Insecurity and Powerlessness.

This tension can come from guilt, being stuck in all that stuff back there. “Get off my back”. Feeling unsupported by people. Louise’s affirmation, “I release the past; I am free to move forward with love in my heart”.

Lower Back = Guilt, Shame, and Unworthiness

The tension here can be a lack of acceptance, low self-worth, fear of money, lack of financial support. Feelings of guilt, shame, sexual inadequacy, and trauma. Louise’s affirmation “I trust the process of life; all I need is always taken care of”.

Stomach = Inability to Process Emotions.

Our stomach represents nourishment and digesting ideas and emotions. We hold dread, fear of the new, and possibly have an inability to assimilate the new. Hence the expression “I can’t stomach it”. If you have tension is this area, you may struggle to process negative and positive emotions. Louise’s affirmation “I digest life with ease”, and Life agrees with me; I assimilate the new every moment of every day, all is well.

Buttocks = Anger and Rage

Our buttocks represent power; loose buttocks loss of power. Our suppressed anger and rage are often held in our buttocks. Hence the saying “pain in the bum”. Louise’s affirmation “I use my power wisely, I am strong, I am safe, all is well”.

If you would like to know more about how to release your suppressed energy and emotions, email Rosemary for more information or download my tips here

How Meditation and Energy Healing can Relieve your Arthritic Pain

Meditation is a way of training the mind to be still, and focus on your breath, a candle flame, another object, or voice. By doing this, we learn to relax and be in the present moment.

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When we are stressed, we release stress hormones, which cause inflammation and pain, irritating your joints more.  By relaxing your body and reducing your stress, your body will stop releasing stress hormones that aggravate your joints’ pain.  Meditation helps to release endorphins, our natural pain reliever into our bloodstream. These endorphins will help the muscle and tissue around the joints be more relaxed, and your brain will then be calmer, so you feel less pain.

Studies show that mindfulness/meditation stress reduction can reduce the pain being felt in the body. Our minds are a lot more powerful than we give them credit for. Now I am not saying everything is mind over matter, but we all know a cut often does not hurt until we see it bleeding. Meditation or healing will not cure arthritis, you will still need the drugs prescribed for you, but it can do a lot to help you manage the pain.

Chakras

Reiki and Energy healing are two very relaxing therapies. They help with dis-ease in the body. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies. Therefore, with energy healing, the therapist runs energy from the earth through your body and energy centres (Chakras) to help bring them back to their optimum frequency.  The environment, our thoughts, what we eat and drink all unbalances our bodies. Regular basic healing sessions can help relieve your pain and stress. Should you want to go deeper to resolve actual energy blocks, this will help keep your body balanced longer.

Email Rosemary to book a session now to manage your arthritic or other pain.

10 Healthy Living Facts to Help you Improve your Life.

During my training as an energy healer, we covered nutrition and how processed food affects your health and energy levels. This post will cover a little about nutrition, straightforward ways to move more during the lockdown, and help your physical body. We will also cover ways to help your mind and spirit.

To work with me as a therapist or join our fortnightly online meditation group email Rosemary

Healthy Eating,

Most of us know sugary and processed foods are not the best choices for a healthy diet. Processed foods are any that have added ingredients. Try to eat at least 80% of fresh food.

  1. Vegetables are packed with the nutrients our body needs; they should be a major part of your healthy diet. Try experimenting with different recipes, finding ones you like, and use them in your lunches and dinners.
  2. Eating proper meals and healthy snacks. Snacking all day makes us think we are not eating much, but we miss out on essential nutrients and eat wasted calories. Eating healthy fats and proteins in complete meals helps to fill us up. If you need a snack, the following are more nutritional and keep you fuller longer, hardboiled egg, a portion of cheese, avocado, apple or other fruit, nuts, and red pepper with guacamole, cucumber slices with hummus, dried unsweetened coconut, and olives.
  3. What we drink, there is no nutritional benefit to alcohol, fizzy drinks, or fruit squashes. The caffeine acts as a diuretic, we, therefore, need to drink more fluids to replace those lost through drinking drinks high in caffeine.  Opting for green tea, herbal tea, or black coffee (keeping our coffee intake to no more than two cups a day, preferably cutting it out altogether).  The best fluid to drink is pure plain water, there are no calories or additives to worry about.  Drinking a glass of water before every meal will make you feel less hungry, and you will be drinking three glasses a day.

Exercise

We all know exercise is good for our bodies, however, it is so easy to sit and watch telly with a snack instead.

1.Walk More

Regular movement is key to so many health benefits. Aim for at least 10,000steps a day. Start easy, with these smallways to walk more and be healthier!

  • Decide to only take the stairs if you are walking less than six floors.
  • Park further away from supermarket entrance when you go shopping.
  • Walk during your work breaks.
  • Plan a walking meeting, or take your phone call while you walk.
  • Get up ten minutes earlier in the morning and take a short brisk walk before the chaos of the day.
  • Walk your kids to or from school, walk to work if it is close.
  • Take a family walk with the kids after dinner.
  • Schedule a once a week walk with a friend.
2. Short Workouts  

Long workouts are not necessary to be healthy.  For most of us, trying to fit in more than 20 minutes is a challenge.  We can try running on the spot or doing some squats while waiting for the kettle to boil or any other time we have a spare five minutes. We can do several basic exercises at home, squats, lunges, push-ups, tricep dips, plank, wall sits, burpees, and mountain climbers, these all get our muscles working again. There is lots of information on how to do these on the internet if you have never done them. You may want to get a professional to show you, though.  Build on this slowly over time, if we have been sedentary for a while, it will take several weeks to get our bodies moving again.

Healthy Mind

This is a balanced mental and emotional state. Where you are productive, feel confident, face your fears, and learn from your mistakes. To keep our minds healthy, we need to exercise and eat healthy as I have already discussed above and get enough sleep and stay mentally active. Your brain is similar to a muscle and needs to be used like any other muscle in your body.

  1. Sleep, getting seven to eight hours of sound sleep, should be our aim. Tracking your sleep with a Fitbit or similar helps you see how well you are sleeping. In a deep sleep is where tissue growth and repair take place. If we are not getting enough deep sleep, we will not feel as refreshed in the morning. Download my tips for a Good Nights Sleep.
  2. Mental Activity. Things to keep your brain healthy include mental activity, crossword puzzles, sudoku, reading, playing cards, and doing jigsaw puzzles. These all help train your brain. There are electronic games for brain training available too. Watching television does nothing to stimulate the brain as it is a passive activity.
  3. Stress has a significant impact on our minds and can contribute to memory loss. Therefore it is important to try to reduce your stress levels. Exercise, relaxation, good sleep, many of the things already mentioned will help reduce stress. Social interaction also helps our stress levels look for ways to connect with loved ones, friends, and others, especially if you live alone. Brain atrophy has been linked to solitary confinement, making the recent periods of lockdown hard for many. Therefore, it is important to stay socially active via the many online means during this time until we can meet face to face again.

Healthy Spirit

The spiritual part of our wellness is the most personal and overlooked piece of living a healthy life. We all would like to live with meaning and purpose, when this is met, we have harmony in our life. Here are some tips for spiritual wellness.

  1. Your spiritual core. By working with a group or therapist exploring your spiritual centre, you will ask yourself deep questions about who you are and your meaning. You may meditate on Who am I? What is my purpose? What do I value most?. Doing this will help you think deeply about yourself and help you achieve fulfilment in your life, possibly clearing energy blocks that are holding you back.
  2. Meditation this is a healthy spiritual practise, where you connect to yourself. Meditation has many benefits for your health. Start slowly, if you are not used to the practice start with clearing your mind of thoughts and focusing on your breath for 3 to 5 minutes each morning before you get up and evening before you go to sleep. Once you have mastered 5 minutes increase to 10, gradually increase by 5 minutes until you can do 20 minutes.

Benefits:-   (for more information on these benefits read my post “About Meditation and the Benefits)

  • Improved health
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Reduced anxiety
  • Decreased stress
  • Deep rest
  • Reversal of the ageing process
  • Increased perception and memory

To work with me as a therapist or join our fortnightly online meditation group email Rosemary

What Causes Blocks in our Energy?

Blocks in our energy are caused by past minor or major trauma.

This could be anything from constantly being told you were stupid as a child, or more serious physical or sexual abuse. Your parents may have had trauma or abuse in their childhood, which was never healed and they did not realise they were passing this on to their children.

My Personal Story.

At eighteen months I was scalded with boiling tea. I climbed on to a chair to pour my dad a cup of tea while he went to answer the door.

I was rushed to the hospital and placed in a cast and secured in a cot so I could not move.  Parents in the early sixties were not allowed to stay with their children in hospital. I am told I cried all evening and kept the ward awake; the nurses could not console me. As a last resort they phoned my mum, and she came down at 11pm and sang me to sleep. I woke the next morning with no one I knew around me again, still in the cast unable to move. I was in this cast for five days, and in hospital for three weeks. My mum always told me I was a different child when I came home. At school I struggled to mix with others.

Later in life, my fiancé was supposed to collect me from hospital after an operation. He didn’t turn up, I waited for half an hour, then decided to get public transport back to his house. When I got there, he was still in bed, and he could not see the problem with not coming to collect me. I felt abandoned yet again! Over the next few years of my life, I was always finding myself in situations where I was on my own. Somehow, I knew there was more to life and I needed to clear this issue of feeling and attracting abandonment.

When I started to train as an Energy Healer, I realised how much I had shut myself down, I worked with my healer for the three years of training clearing my blocks, so I could create a happier life for myself and others.

What happened in your childhood?

Are there circumstances in your past which maybe sabotaging your future. Writing a timeline of your life can can highlight times when you were sad or hurt and there was no one there for you. The situations which bring up strong emotions, could be affecting your life now. Are you constantly experiencing the same problems, you may feel stuck in a rut. If any of this feels how your life is at the moment, download my Ebook about healing the The Wounded Inner Child. or email for more information.

What is Energy Healing?

The human body is composed of energy, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and attitudes are also energy. When all the cells, molecules, and tissue, which are energy are superimposed on each other they become the human energy field. These are all vibrating at different frequencies.

Energy Healing

Therefore, energy healing is a way of balancing your energy and chakras, so they vibrate at the best frequency for your health. Everything we do, eat, think, drink affects our energy field. An energy healing session helps to free blocked energy, allowing you to release any negative thoughts and memories of the past, which may be causing blocks and disease.

Human Energy Field/Aura

Our Aura has seven levels, etheric, emotional, mental, astral, template, celestial, and causal, the Energy Field has four levels, the Physical which is our body, the Aura, Intention and Essence.

The Physical level, our body holds the patterns and tensions from the disturbances of the mental and emotional levels in our aura. These disturbances are found in the cellular memory from trauma, and beliefs during our lives.

The seven levels of the Aura are related to the chakras. This level is also our personality or ego and holds both healthy and distorted patterns, which we have developed throughout our life.   It is said disease exists on this level before manifesting in our physical body.

The level of our Intention is our life purpose. We need to align our energy to truth, to allow our life to flow with ease.

The level of Essence is the state of our pure original being. As we go through our healing journey, we display more of our essence. Our essence can be distorted or disguised by our ego.

How to Heal Your Inner Child

What is your inner child?

Your inner child is the child you were, with both negative and positive aspects. Our unmet needs, our suppressed childhood emotions along with our childlike innocence, creativity and joy are all still within us.

Our repressed emotions are are the things we learnt to do or to feel to allow our parents to love us. Examples; if you only received attention when you were good, your inner child maybe rebellious, sad or angry. If you were part of trauma or abuse your inner child would hide pain and fear to survive. By accessing your inner child you find the roots of issues or patterns in your life as an adult.

Signs of having a wounded inner child are:

  • Low self-esteem, poor body image
  • Mood and emotional imbalances
  • Problems with boundaries being too rigid or too weak
  • Problems with eating
  • Harming yourself
  • Psychosexual difficulties
  • Identity problems being a rebel/a hoarder/ a bully/ a perennial victim or a super-achiever
  • Intimacy problems
  • Commitment problems
  • A general lack of trust in yourself and others
  • Criminal behaviour, excessive lying
  • Being ‘overly- responsible’ for others
  • Being fiercely competitive and a poor loser
  • Dependencies and addictions
  • Obsessive and needy behaviour
  • Fear of authority figures
  • Being manipulative, passive or aggressive

We are not born with any of these issues, they are created in our subconscious by our environment and people during our informative years. Our informative years between birth and seven years old is the time when we absorb our experiences and are unable to verbalise our thoughts.

We create masks to hold and conceal our low self-esteem, family trauma, secrets and our shame. These are often not spoken about; however, they affect how we were treated by our family and friends. We need to be able to accept that we were shamed, ignored or betrayed by our parents and how this has truly wounded our soul/inner child. Our parents were not bad they were just wounded kids themselves.

We show these masks when we have negative thoughts, emotions, self-doubt or self-loathing that overwhelms us and we are then more likely to turn to drugs, food and alcohol to numb the feelings. Therapy will help you peel off the masks that we created as children to help us survive these experiences; once we begin to do this, we can then live lives without having to numb our feeling and emotions with stimulants.

Things You Can Do Yourself:

  • Take a few moments to think about the happy memories of your childhood.
  • Remind yourself how special you were and still are.
  • When the inner critic voice surfaces, stop… take some deep breaths reply to yourself with a soothing, comforting, nurturing inner voice.
  • Tell the inner child (you as a child) how much she is loved, valued and appreciated.
  • Your inner child has nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of, none of this was her/his fault.
  • Watch loving mothers with their babies and absorb the loving energy.
  • Imagine sitting with your inner child (you as a baby or toddler).
  • Allow the true feelings of your childhood to emerge and let the emotions flow. Let the tears flow and to release the anger hit a pillow.

If doing any of the above brings up anger and shock, then you are on the path to healing, shock is the beginning of grief. Do not feel bad about feeling angry, even if none of your wounding was intentional. Your parents did the best they could as wounded adults themselves.

As victimised children, we must grieve our betrayal and shame, what may have been our dreams or goals in life, and our unfulfilled developmental needs.

We must help our wounded inner child realise there was nothing he/she could have done differently, the pain of what happened to him/her is what needs to be grieved and healed.

When we feel we are bad or contaminated, this shame can lead to loneliness. Our inner child may feel flawed and defective; therefore they cover up their true self, with their mask/defence they used to get through life, creating a false self. Their true self, therefore, feels isolated. As we work on this level through therapy we can embrace the feelings and heal the self that has been in hiding. What we hide from others we hide from ourselves also. In coming to terms with our shame, abandonment and hidden feelings we begin to embrace and love our true self/soul.

If you have more questions, then email me at https://soul-essence.com/contact/