17 Affirmations to Help Calm your Anxiety.

Calm your anxiety with affirmations. Using the right affirmations for your anxiety, you will be able to calm your attacks be they take hold.  Below are some affirmations to help reduce your anxiety when you are on the verge of an attack. I would suggest keeping a list in your bag or on your phone until this becomes second nature and you have memorised the affirmations.       

How you can calm anxiety attacks with affirmations or mantras

These affirmations bring you into the present and allow you to ground yourself.  Repeating positive affirmations or phrases instil these messages in your brain, helping you become calm and in control. Affirmations are really simple and extremely useful to use when your anxiety strikes. Well known mantras are “om”, “om mani padme hum”, personal mantras could be “I am full of light”, “I belong, I have faith” mantras are most commonly used in meditation and have a more spiritual background. Although I have used these when out walking on my own. Mantras again are repeated frequently in your mind and will immerse you completely in an idea and bring you closer to your goal. Whatever you use to calm your anxiety has to feel right for you.

Challenge your negative thoughts with these affirmations.

To manage our anxiety, we need to learn how to change our anxious thought patterns using affirmations or mantras. When you start to feel your anxiety rising, instead of listening to the negative thoughts your mind immediately gives you, thoughts like, “I am having an anxiety attack” or “I am panicking”, these often lead to negative self-talk like, “I am so stupid, why did I do …….” Or I hate myself. Why do I do …………….”. As soon as you feel an attack coming, start to read your affirmations from your phone or written list. “I am calm”, “I can feel this fear and let it pass”,, and “I am in control”.

Breaking the cycle of anxiety with affirmations

Anxious thought patterns get embedded in the brain each time you experience an anxiety attack. You can either programme your brain to react to the situation with the negative thought patterns creating anxiety or use positive affirmations to reduce your anxiety. Therefore, you can break the cycle of anxiety by using positive affirmations and mantras to rewire your brain through plasticity.

Not using any form of positive strategies like affirmations or mantras, you feed your fear of a situation, confirming to your brain that this situation results in panic. Using affirmations, you lessen the fear, forcing your brain to see this situation is not scary and not needing to release fear and panic and the fight and flight hormones.

Using affirmations can serve as a distraction to your anxiety.

Using affirmations serves as a distraction from your anxiety, giving you something else to focus on. Having positive affirmations in places around your home, on your phone as wallpapers take your brain away from the panic. By focusing on these positive affirmations, reciting them, so you memorise them will immediately bring your focus away from the anxiety attack, which will end your attacks quicker after time.

Rewire the brain with positive affirmations

Studies and science have shown that our brains can be rewired by our thoughts. Therefore, positive affirmations and thoughts can change your brain to be more positive and creating less panic. We have all heard of positive thinking and positive self-talk; this is why it is so important. Your mind will always believe what you constantly tell it.  Continually affirming you are having a panic attack or will have one, your brain is more likely to make it happen. By repeating to yourself regularly, “I am calm,” your brain is more likely to make this happen.  Affirmations can change your life.

Affirmations to use when you are feeling anxious.

Below are some affirmations to use when you feel your anxiety and fear rising. These are short, so they are easier to remember and use: –

  • I am calm and in control”.
  • I feel the fear and let it go”.
  • “I am not defined by my anxiety”.
  • “I let my anxious thoughts flow in one ear and out the other.”
  • “I am okay.”
  • “I am getting through this anxious moment, just as I have done a million times before”.
  • “I am strong and resilient”.
  • “I choose to feel calm and peaceful”.
  • “I have survived this before; I will this survive now”.
  • “I am free from my anxiety. I am in control”.
  • “I am in charge of my breathing, and I can slow it down”.
  • “I can do this”.
  • “I am above stress of any kind”.
  • “I am familiar with these feelings, and they do not scare me”.
  • “I am surrounded by people who understand”.
  • “I am supported, loved and cared for”.
  • “I have the techniques and tools I need to persevere”.

Using affirmations to relieve your anxiety.

Affirmations can be used in meditation, while you are out walking when you are not experiencing anxiety, this further helps rewire our brains, there are many ways you can use them, you choose what is best for you. The one rule for helping anxiety is to recite an affirmation at least 10 times or until you feel it resonating with you, every time you are feeling anxious wherever you are.

When you have an attack you can, recite the affirmation silently to yourself, read it from your phone or paper list, or sit and write them down. Our brains all work differently, so choose the way feels most comfortable for you. You must keep repeating the affirmations for them to rewire your brain.

The above are only a few affirmations; there are hundreds more online and plenty of apps that will send you an affirmation each day. We are all at different stages of our anxiety, and using affirmations may not be enough for you. If you feel you need more support, please do not hesitate to contact me to support you further. There is lots of help out there, and you do not need to suffer in silence and alone.

If you are already on medication, DO NOT stop taking this without getting advice from your doctor.

How Meditation and Energy Healing can Relieve your Arthritic Pain

Meditation is a way of training the mind to be still, and focus on your breath, a candle flame, another object, or voice. By doing this, we learn to relax and be in the present moment.

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When we are stressed, we release stress hormones, which cause inflammation and pain, irritating your joints more.  By relaxing your body and reducing your stress, your body will stop releasing stress hormones that aggravate your joints’ pain.  Meditation helps to release endorphins, our natural pain reliever into our bloodstream. These endorphins will help the muscle and tissue around the joints be more relaxed, and your brain will then be calmer, so you feel less pain.

Studies show that mindfulness/meditation stress reduction can reduce the pain being felt in the body. Our minds are a lot more powerful than we give them credit for. Now I am not saying everything is mind over matter, but we all know a cut often does not hurt until we see it bleeding. Meditation or healing will not cure arthritis, you will still need the drugs prescribed for you, but it can do a lot to help you manage the pain.

Chakras

Reiki and Energy healing are two very relaxing therapies. They help with dis-ease in the body. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies. Therefore, with energy healing, the therapist runs energy from the earth through your body and energy centres (Chakras) to help bring them back to their optimum frequency.  The environment, our thoughts, what we eat and drink all unbalances our bodies. Regular basic healing sessions can help relieve your pain and stress. Should you want to go deeper to resolve actual energy blocks, this will help keep your body balanced longer.

Email Rosemary to book a session now to manage your arthritic or other pain.

10 Healthy Living Facts to Help you Improve your Life.

During my training as an energy healer, we covered nutrition and how processed food affects your health and energy levels. This post will cover a little about nutrition, straightforward ways to move more during the lockdown, and help your physical body. We will also cover ways to help your mind and spirit.

To work with me as a therapist or join our fortnightly online meditation group email Rosemary

Healthy Eating,

Most of us know sugary and processed foods are not the best choices for a healthy diet. Processed foods are any that have added ingredients. Try to eat at least 80% of fresh food.

  1. Vegetables are packed with the nutrients our body needs; they should be a major part of your healthy diet. Try experimenting with different recipes, finding ones you like, and use them in your lunches and dinners.
  2. Eating proper meals and healthy snacks. Snacking all day makes us think we are not eating much, but we miss out on essential nutrients and eat wasted calories. Eating healthy fats and proteins in complete meals helps to fill us up. If you need a snack, the following are more nutritional and keep you fuller longer, hardboiled egg, a portion of cheese, avocado, apple or other fruit, nuts, and red pepper with guacamole, cucumber slices with hummus, dried unsweetened coconut, and olives.
  3. What we drink, there is no nutritional benefit to alcohol, fizzy drinks, or fruit squashes. The caffeine acts as a diuretic, we, therefore, need to drink more fluids to replace those lost through drinking drinks high in caffeine.  Opting for green tea, herbal tea, or black coffee (keeping our coffee intake to no more than two cups a day, preferably cutting it out altogether).  The best fluid to drink is pure plain water, there are no calories or additives to worry about.  Drinking a glass of water before every meal will make you feel less hungry, and you will be drinking three glasses a day.

Exercise

We all know exercise is good for our bodies, however, it is so easy to sit and watch telly with a snack instead.

1.Walk More

Regular movement is key to so many health benefits. Aim for at least 10,000steps a day. Start easy, with these smallways to walk more and be healthier!

  • Decide to only take the stairs if you are walking less than six floors.
  • Park further away from supermarket entrance when you go shopping.
  • Walk during your work breaks.
  • Plan a walking meeting, or take your phone call while you walk.
  • Get up ten minutes earlier in the morning and take a short brisk walk before the chaos of the day.
  • Walk your kids to or from school, walk to work if it is close.
  • Take a family walk with the kids after dinner.
  • Schedule a once a week walk with a friend.
2. Short Workouts  

Long workouts are not necessary to be healthy.  For most of us, trying to fit in more than 20 minutes is a challenge.  We can try running on the spot or doing some squats while waiting for the kettle to boil or any other time we have a spare five minutes. We can do several basic exercises at home, squats, lunges, push-ups, tricep dips, plank, wall sits, burpees, and mountain climbers, these all get our muscles working again. There is lots of information on how to do these on the internet if you have never done them. You may want to get a professional to show you, though.  Build on this slowly over time, if we have been sedentary for a while, it will take several weeks to get our bodies moving again.

Healthy Mind

This is a balanced mental and emotional state. Where you are productive, feel confident, face your fears, and learn from your mistakes. To keep our minds healthy, we need to exercise and eat healthy as I have already discussed above and get enough sleep and stay mentally active. Your brain is similar to a muscle and needs to be used like any other muscle in your body.

  1. Sleep, getting seven to eight hours of sound sleep, should be our aim. Tracking your sleep with a Fitbit or similar helps you see how well you are sleeping. In a deep sleep is where tissue growth and repair take place. If we are not getting enough deep sleep, we will not feel as refreshed in the morning. Download my tips for a Good Nights Sleep.
  2. Mental Activity. Things to keep your brain healthy include mental activity, crossword puzzles, sudoku, reading, playing cards, and doing jigsaw puzzles. These all help train your brain. There are electronic games for brain training available too. Watching television does nothing to stimulate the brain as it is a passive activity.
  3. Stress has a significant impact on our minds and can contribute to memory loss. Therefore it is important to try to reduce your stress levels. Exercise, relaxation, good sleep, many of the things already mentioned will help reduce stress. Social interaction also helps our stress levels look for ways to connect with loved ones, friends, and others, especially if you live alone. Brain atrophy has been linked to solitary confinement, making the recent periods of lockdown hard for many. Therefore, it is important to stay socially active via the many online means during this time until we can meet face to face again.

Healthy Spirit

The spiritual part of our wellness is the most personal and overlooked piece of living a healthy life. We all would like to live with meaning and purpose, when this is met, we have harmony in our life. Here are some tips for spiritual wellness.

  1. Your spiritual core. By working with a group or therapist exploring your spiritual centre, you will ask yourself deep questions about who you are and your meaning. You may meditate on Who am I? What is my purpose? What do I value most?. Doing this will help you think deeply about yourself and help you achieve fulfilment in your life, possibly clearing energy blocks that are holding you back.
  2. Meditation this is a healthy spiritual practise, where you connect to yourself. Meditation has many benefits for your health. Start slowly, if you are not used to the practice start with clearing your mind of thoughts and focusing on your breath for 3 to 5 minutes each morning before you get up and evening before you go to sleep. Once you have mastered 5 minutes increase to 10, gradually increase by 5 minutes until you can do 20 minutes.

Benefits:-   (for more information on these benefits read my post “About Meditation and the Benefits)

  • Improved health
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Reduced anxiety
  • Decreased stress
  • Deep rest
  • Reversal of the ageing process
  • Increased perception and memory

To work with me as a therapist or join our fortnightly online meditation group email Rosemary

How Mindfulness and Meditation can Help your Anxiety.

Anxiety can drain you mentally and energetically.  However, research has proven meditation and mindfulness can reduce your anxiety.

Mindfulness and meditation can be done in the comfort of your home with little equipment. You can use mindfulness, throughout the day. When you are making a drink really listen to the water being poured into the cup, and the smell of the coffe or tea, the same when you are making dinner. What ever you are doing try to come out the auto pilot mode.

Your Intention.

Start the day with setting your intention. Your intention can be repeated as an affirmation or written down in your journal, you can even write on a post it and put it some where you will see it regularly.

Your intentions can be, I look for the positives in negative situations. I accept myself and know I am enough, 1 will drink enough water today, I will do my best to achieve my goals. Make it something relevant to what causes your anxiety.

Meditate or Practise Mindfulness Each Day.

You can use an app for meditation, there are several free ones available or you can just listen to meditation music or focus on your breathing. There are many classes if you need some help or inspiration to mediate. Soul essence runs a fortnightly Tuesday evening meditation group online via zoom.

Do Something Creative.

There are many adult colouring books available now. Colouring can be very relaxing, as can plain doodling. You can make some lovely patterns doodling. I am sure many of have done this during a boring meeting. This could be helpful if you are at home alone and find it difficult to switch off and need something to do with your hands.

Doing a Walking Meditation.

Go for a walk and really focus on the nature around you, if you are in a town try and find a park. Walking round the block in a town is good too, but keep your focus on what you can hear, smell, and feel. We need to keep our minds in the present on what our senses are picking up.

Breathing

When you are walking home, or doing things outdoors, take some deep breaths into your belly, and look up to the sky, whether it is light or dark, and notice the clouds floating by or the stars shining. By focusing on our breath, it helps us to relax and become calm. Take our attention away from our anxiety and problems.

Social Media

Social Media can be helpful when used for the right reasons. It can also be one of the main causes of anxiety and stress. The more platforms you use the more you are likely to create stress and anxiety.  Set yourself a limit on the social media platforms, either use one of the apps that monitors your time on social media or logout each time. By having to put your password in each time will make you think about why I am logging in. You will realise how much you go on these platforms without thinking and taking in other people negativity.

How a Wounded Inner Child Can Form Addictions

Addictions

These are habitual patterns of behaviour that feed the wounded inner child.

There are three things a child needs in early life.

Structure – A daily schedule of proper diet, sleep, exercise, and appropriate activities

Stimulation – Plenty of fun, adventure, and excitement because this is how children learn.

Nurturing – Daily doses of time attention, affection and direction.

A lack in any one of these areas can cause an irritable infant with a wounded inner child.

The Child’s Ego

This a network of their wants, needs and feelings. There are three primary needs that drive our behaviour. The need to structure our time in a way that helps us fulfil our need for stimulus (touch, intensity and excitement) and position in the family with validation of what is right and wrong.

Children are by nature impulsive, adventuresome, curious and creative; they also want what they want when they want. The three primary needs are observed in the young child when they do not stick to their schedule, get bored, or do not get enough positive attention or approval.

             

Children who do not get their needs met suffer from the pain of abandonment – something which frequently occurs in dysfunctional families. It, therefore, follows that our child ego is what gets addicted to various activities and objects. When we are in our child ego state we experience ourselves and the world through that part of us.  Inner child authors often refer to this state as the child “driving the bus” in one’s life, which causes considerable pain. Children are not supposed to be in charge of an adult’s life.

Children have little if any impulse control…that’s why we have parents. It’s the Parent ego state that is supposed to keep us out of trouble. If you have ever determined that you were going to stick to a proper diet or begin an exercise program but did not follow through then you have experienced that inner voice that started to chastise you for not doing so — enter the Inner Parent.

It is in our child ego state where bad habits and addictions begin. When the Child takes over “driving the bus” of our life we are heading for a crash. And if our Parent and the Adult Ego States are confined to the back of the bus  you are in for a bumpy ride

Our addictions create shame from the negative consequences of overdoing it with food, drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex and other compulsive addictions. The primary source of shame is our own self-talk which comes from our critical inner voice/parent. We hear things like:-

      • Look what you’ve done now!
      • This is proof that you’ll never amount to anything!
      • You are just a screwed up loser, no good!

We will likely have a strong feeling of not feeling ok, using the addictions to suppress our emotions from our childhood and create more shame and internal critical criticism.

To heal ourselves from these addictions and shame we need to bring the childhood emotions to our consciousness and learn to accept them.

This can be done through energy healing and integral core therapy, for more information on how these can help you contact Rosemary

Are Your Relationships being Sabotaged by Your Inner Child!

No one gets through their childhood without a degree of wounding, some may continue to be in denial about this.  Staying blind to these wounds will allow them to have a way of unconsciously ruling us. If while growing up you were smothered and overprotected by your parents and you don’t look at this issue, you may overreact to even the slightest amount of control by your spouse. However, when you understand the dynamic with your parents can find the emotional freedom to make different, and healthier, choices. Being vulnerable and communicating your childhood hurts to your spouse. You can let them know what triggers you, what your “inner child” needs. You can then act, rather than only react.

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The wounded inner child – whether from childhood trauma or neglect – tries hard to get our needs for love, care and attention met. This could cause us to use manipulation with people and situations to get our own way, perhaps by becoming overly dependent upon someone else to meet our needs – as if they were our idealised parent.love-1833159_1280

 

Alternatively, if we have given up on our efforts to get our needs for love met by someone else we might then become emotionally cut off and overly self-reliant and super-independent. All of which keep us disconnected from mature love – the very love that could heal our early wounds.

If any of the above rings true to you, you can find more information about the Inner Child in my Ebook or contact me for more information

What Spiritual Therapies Can Soul Essence Help You With?

Here are the spiritual therapies available: –

Meditation, Integral Core Therapy, Energy Healing, Chakra Balancing and Distance Healing. Scroll to the therapy you are interested in.  The links/Sub Titles will take you to more information on my website

Meditation 

affirmations to help you meditateSoul Essence runs small local Meditation Groups of between 4 and 8 people in New Eltham.

A typical session will include a 30 to 45 minute guided meditation; all my group meditations have the same beginning to help you relax into your body. I do this to help people relax at the start; this helps them not to worry about what is coming next.  I then take you on a guided journey, which may be to help you further relax, or work on positivity, or many other emotions and subjects. As part of the meditation I also come round to each person and run some energy healing this is optional, you just need to let me know at the beginning if you would prefer not to have this.

I ask the groups to put forward suggestions for future meditations.

Integral Core Therapy

There are several reasons to have ICT:Don't be pushed around by fear
To access the loving awareness which exists within your core self and helps resolve childhood issues.
To find meaning and purpose in your life
To deal with life’s daily challenges
To provide integral healing and vision for individuals and communities
To connect with yourself and others in a heart-centred way
To support the spiritual and social paradigm shift in society

The primary intention is to access your core self which is the source of healing, wisdom, strength, and compassion. As your therapist-facilitator, I can support you whilst you are working to resolve childhood issues and to access your inner resources. The actual healer, mentor, and guide is your own integral core self.

Energy Healing

Energy Healing is a holistic therapy which treats the person rather than the symptoms. This means that it can be effective in almost any situation. It involves tracing the cause of any suffering through the physical and emotional symptoms to its roots deep within our psyche.

Our natural flow of energy always moves towards perfect health and well-being. However, when faced with difficulties in our life which we find too painful to accept, we tend to hold this unresolved energy in our aura. This creates blockages in our energy field which then depletes our vitality and can lead to ill-health and suffering.

Chakra Balancing

ChakrasIn most people most of the time there are imbalances between the front and rear aspect of each chakra and between the seven main chakras. An imbalance means that there is more energy moving through one part than another. This creates an unbalanced personality and physical body. Often when one aspect is tense, contracted or shut down then the energy will try to flow in a vicarious way.

So for instance, if someone is scared of showing their loving feelings so that the front of their heart chakra is contracted, then the rear aspect will overcompensate by expanding, such that they become overly wilful.

Distance Healing

Distance Energy Healing and Integral Core Therapy are also offered via skype or zoom if you are unable to come to see me personally. All you have to do is make an appointment; I will ring you or send you a link for a zoom meeting at the arranged time and have a session over the phone or internet. You will be asked to lie/sit down and relax by concentrating on your breathing for the energy healing which will be approximately 30 minutes. Once this has been completed I will ring you again to confirm everything is ok with you and further discussion if necessary.

For the Integral Core Therapy, this will be more talking and use of Chi Gung to help you get in touch with the suppressed emotions.

If any of the therapies above appeal to a problem you may have please contact me

Get Enough Sleep to Help Reduce Your Pain

Restful Sleep Reduces Pain and Inflammation

Getting enough sleep can help reduce your pain, improve your quality of life and help you overcome diseases

Not only is sleep a fundamental human need, but it is also a necessity for people who experience aches or pains of any kind and should never be taken for granted. Sleep is so important, we naturally fall asleep when our body tells our brain that certain essential chemicals have been depleted and our muscles and ligaments are tired and in need of restoration.

The growing problem is that many of us rely on stimulants like coffee, tea and sodas to force ourselves to stay awake and continue working. We, therefore, stay up too late, get up too early, and continue to consume unhealthy amounts of toxic substances – night after night after night. For the better part of our adult lives, many of us are both sick AND tired through constantly starving our bodies of sleep.

Lack of sleep causes:

  • poor concentration,
  • slower reaction times,
  • decreased performance levels,
  • less ability to learn and compartmentalize new skills and knowledge,
  • more frequent memory lapses,
  • increases in simple injuries and accidents,
  • adverse changes in moods and behaviours,
  • increased frequency of headaches,
  • neck and shoulder pain, backaches,
  • fatigue
  • overload of toxic consumption.

This happens because during restful sleep our body is actually working to repair itself. The liver purifies the blood, the muscles repair, serotonin increases. Without ample sleep, these things do not happen at optimal levels. Our biological clock expects sleep to take over during the evening hours. We are genetically programmed to get up and lie down with the sun. It was the invention of artificial sources of light (candles and bulbs) that began our stressed-out drive for more working hours at the expense of much-needed rest.

What’s the big deal, you ask?

There is always, coffee, caffeine pills, cat naps, life is good getting by on only a few hours sleep per night. Well, not really. Did you know that in clinical tests rats die within a few weeks of sleep deprivation? Chronic fatigue, adrenal fatigue, attention deficit disorder, chronic migraine and headache, body aches and pain, mental illness, depression and anxiety are all in part caused – or made worse – by lack of sleep. And lack of sleep causes lower levels of the neurotransmitter serotonin, placing you at risk for depression and suicidal thoughts.

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This information is based on information taken from Arthritis Reversed: Groundbreaking 30-Day Arthritis Relief Action Plan.

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My next post will be about Insomnia

How to Heal Your Inner Child

What is your inner child?

Your inner child is the child you were, with both negative and positive aspects. Our unmet needs, our suppressed childhood emotions along with our childlike innocence, creativity and joy are all still within us.

Our repressed emotions are are the things we learnt to do or to feel to allow our parents to love us. Examples; if you only received attention when you were good, your inner child maybe rebellious, sad or angry. If you were part of trauma or abuse your inner child would hide pain and fear to survive. By accessing your inner child you find the roots of issues or patterns in your life as an adult.

Signs of having a wounded inner child are:

  • Low self-esteem, poor body image
  • Mood and emotional imbalances
  • Problems with boundaries being too rigid or too weak
  • Problems with eating
  • Harming yourself
  • Psychosexual difficulties
  • Identity problems being a rebel/a hoarder/ a bully/ a perennial victim or a super-achiever
  • Intimacy problems
  • Commitment problems
  • A general lack of trust in yourself and others
  • Criminal behaviour, excessive lying
  • Being ‘overly- responsible’ for others
  • Being fiercely competitive and a poor loser
  • Dependencies and addictions
  • Obsessive and needy behaviour
  • Fear of authority figures
  • Being manipulative, passive or aggressive

We are not born with any of these issues, they are created in our subconscious by our environment and people during our informative years. Our informative years between birth and seven years old is the time when we absorb our experiences and are unable to verbalise our thoughts.

We create masks to hold and conceal our low self-esteem, family trauma, secrets and our shame. These are often not spoken about; however, they affect how we were treated by our family and friends. We need to be able to accept that we were shamed, ignored or betrayed by our parents and how this has truly wounded our soul/inner child. Our parents were not bad they were just wounded kids themselves.

We show these masks when we have negative thoughts, emotions, self-doubt or self-loathing that overwhelms us and we are then more likely to turn to drugs, food and alcohol to numb the feelings. Therapy will help you peel off the masks that we created as children to help us survive these experiences; once we begin to do this, we can then live lives without having to numb our feeling and emotions with stimulants.

Things You Can Do Yourself:

  • Take a few moments to think about the happy memories of your childhood.
  • Remind yourself how special you were and still are.
  • When the inner critic voice surfaces, stop… take some deep breaths reply to yourself with a soothing, comforting, nurturing inner voice.
  • Tell the inner child (you as a child) how much she is loved, valued and appreciated.
  • Your inner child has nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of, none of this was her/his fault.
  • Watch loving mothers with their babies and absorb the loving energy.
  • Imagine sitting with your inner child (you as a baby or toddler).
  • Allow the true feelings of your childhood to emerge and let the emotions flow. Let the tears flow and to release the anger hit a pillow.

If doing any of the above brings up anger and shock, then you are on the path to healing, shock is the beginning of grief. Do not feel bad about feeling angry, even if none of your wounding was intentional. Your parents did the best they could as wounded adults themselves.

As victimised children, we must grieve our betrayal and shame, what may have been our dreams or goals in life, and our unfulfilled developmental needs.

We must help our wounded inner child realise there was nothing he/she could have done differently, the pain of what happened to him/her is what needs to be grieved and healed.

When we feel we are bad or contaminated, this shame can lead to loneliness. Our inner child may feel flawed and defective; therefore they cover up their true self, with their mask/defence they used to get through life, creating a false self. Their true self, therefore, feels isolated. As we work on this level through therapy we can embrace the feelings and heal the self that has been in hiding. What we hide from others we hide from ourselves also. In coming to terms with our shame, abandonment and hidden feelings we begin to embrace and love our true self/soul.

If you have more questions, then email me at https://soul-essence.com/contact/

 

How Your Spiritual Energy Can Benefit You

Everything is energy including us, vibrating at different frequencies. There are low and high frequencies. If we are vibrating at the lower levels we will have more pain in our lives than we would if we were vibrating at the higher frequencies.

Humans will always face challenges and fears in their lives. We grow and learn through friction, particularly friction within ourselves. Trying to rid our lives of uncomfortable moments, or difficult challenges is not our aim. We need to master being responsible and aware of our thoughts and actions, so we do not react from impulse, which has you playing out the same old low-frequency patterns you have been carrying around all your life.

Acting out these same patterns is why: –

  • people go on a diet lose loads of weight, only to put it all back on again,
  • people who win the lottery eventually end right back where they started financially,
  • most New Year resolutions are abandoned by the end of January.

If you only change the exterior and work on the things outside of yourself, continuing  to be the same person on the inside, not changing your mindset of lack and fear, (Example if I can’t hide behind my wall of flab I will be seen, vulnerable, and possibly rejected) therefore you will not evolve and change.  Step back for a moment and acknowledge the fact that you’re alive. The life force known as Universal Intelligence is flowing through your human body, making your blood pump, your mind think, your heart desire, your intuition tell you to look in a coat pocket for the car keys you’ve spent half the afternoon searching for. This force that flows through you is the essence of who you are, it’s the highest frequency there is—you are Universal Intelligence seeking expression on Earth through the you that is you. You are a valuable and irreplaceable asset to the Universe. So when your energy is vibrating at the highest frequency possible—the frequency of love, you are giving and receiving goodness and riches around you.

This information has been taken from the ideas in one of the books in Jen Sincero’s series of “You are a Badass ……”

Energy healing will help you work on your inner self, moving you into the higher frequencies so you feel healthier.  Contact Rosemary for more information