Six simple ways to increase your self-motivation

Self Motivation

What does self-motivation mean, the dictionary says, “able and willing to work without being told what to do”. Therefore, self-motivation is an important skill to have. It drives you to keep going even when you are faced with setbacks in achieving your goals.

Here are some ways to help keep you motivated.

Start your day with gratitude and appreciation.

Be thankful for how you feel, and when you are asked, “how are you today?” give a positive answer, “I am fantastic, excellent or great” G.R.E.A.T. stands for Getting Really Excited About Today. You may be thinking about what I have to be excited about. Start living each day as the greatest day of your life, be excited for another day to help your friends and family, be a positive influence. Self-motivation should start the minute you wake up. Do something special for you; this could be your regular skincare routine, a shower with a special shower gel, be creative; if you struggle to do nice things for yourself, you are unlikely to be helpful or productive for others.

Reward yourself.

After being good to yourself, reward yourself; this can be any small treat or your breakfast. Preferably something that is repeated. It is easier to keep yourself motivated when you provide recognition to yourself.

Self-motivation has to come from you.

No one can give you self-motivation, you can be motivated by getting money or other outside influences, but that is not lasting; it can be taken away at any time. Live your life from the inside out, not the outside in and embrace enduring self-motivation.

Taking control of your life

There are things you cannot control, for example, the weather, traffic, what other people say or do. If you cannot control something, just let it be. There are things in life that are possible to control, like your thoughts, your ego, your reactions, and your attitude. These are all part of self-motivation. Changing your perspective on life will boost your self-motivation.

Know yourself.

Answer these questions, be honest for the most beneficial results to improve your self-motivation. You may wish to work with a trusted friend or therapist to dig deeper into your thoughts.

  • What are your values?
  • What are your strengths and weaknesses?
  • What motivates you?
  • What demotivates you?
  • What are your fears and perceived limitations?
  • How can you overcome them?
  • What are your negative habits?
  • What positive habits can replace them?

What you want from life.

Self-motivation is a necessary to achieve your goals and dreams, write your dreams and goals down.

Set out an action plan, break it down into small steps. Take action on your plan. Self-motivation is the actual doing. Thinking about it leads to procrastination. Give yourself permission to learn; this may mean failing once or twice before you get it right. This is normal; think about how a toddler learns to walk.

5 Tips to Stay Positive

The philosopher Marcus Aurelius quoted “Our life is what our thoughts make it” Many others have written similar quotes since.

Do you always look for the problem, or do you look for a solution?

Are you a glass half empty or half full person?

Many studies have shown the benefits of being a positive thinker, mainly a much lower risk of dying from death’s main causes. 

  • Heart disease
  • Stroke
  • Various types of Cancer
  • Infection
  • Respiratory diseases

I am not going into detail on the above diseases, there is loads of information on the internet to read.

Other benefits of being positive from studies are: –

  • Improved quality of life
  • Increased energy levels
  • Improved psychological and physical health.
  • Quicker recovery from injury and illness
  • Fewer colds
  • Less chance of depression and anxiety
  • Improved management of stress and being more resilient.
  • Living a healthier longer life.

Thinking Positively

Focus on the happy times.

In life, we all have good and bad memories.  To stay positive, we need to focus on finding the silver lining of the situation. When an event is cancelled, don’t take it personally, think about an activity you can do instead that you enjoy.

Gratitude

Keeping a gratitude journal, or any other way of practising gratitude has been proven to reduce stress, increase self-esteem and resilience, to help you cope when life throws you difficult times. Write of think of people and all the situations and things you find comfort or happiness with. Do this once a day, it can be part of meditation too. The list can be simple things like thanking a person for helping you, the love you receive from your pets, the joy of your garden.

Laughter

Laughing lowers stress, anxiety, depression, as well as improving your mood and self-esteem.  When things are hard to find the funny side and laugh, I am sure many of you have experienced this when in a group, how laughing instantly changes the mood and the situation becomes easier.

Positive people

Positivity is as contagious as negativity. Therefore, consider spending time with positive people. It has been said you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Positive Self-Talk

We are our own worst enemies; we talk to ourselves in ways we would not consider talking to others. You need to become aware of this talk and change the negative statements immediately with a positive one.  There are also phrases and words we should try to avoid, “I can’t”, “Should”, “problem”, “if”, “just”, “if only”, “but”, “someday”, “why me”, “I don’t know” are some, read a blog post here for 21 words and Phrases.

Want help in finding ways to quiet your negative self-talk, email Rosemary@soul-essence.com