Learn how to start the new year being kind to yourself!

Being kind to ourselves is an important aspect of self-care and personal growth. However, it can be difficult to practice self-kindness when you are feeling overwhelmed or dealing with negative thoughts.

Here are six suggestions to help you.

  1. Practise self-compassion. Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend. Instead of criticising yourself for mistakes or negative thoughts, try to be understanding and supportive.
  2. Treat yourself with kindness. This means being gentle and patient with yourself, rather than pushing yourself too hard or being too critical. Take time out to do things you enjoy, such as reading a book, watching a movie, or going for a walk.
  3. Set realistic goals. Setting unrealistic goals can lead to feelings of failure and self-criticism. Instead, set goals that are challenging but achievable. Then if you fail to achieve a goal, be kind to yourself and try again.
  4. Speak kindly to yourself. Pay attention to the language you use when talking to yourself. Try to avoid using negative or harsh words and try to use kind positive and compassionate language.
  5. Forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself is an important aspect of self-kindness. We all make mistakes, so it’s important to forgive yourself for past mistakes and focus on moving forward. I have written several meditations to help people with forgiveness.
  6. Seek professional help when needed. If you find it hard to be kind to yourself, or if your negative thoughts are impacting your daily life, it is important to seek professional help. A therapist can help you work through your thoughts and emotions in a safe and supportive way.

Overall, being kind to yourself is an ongoing process that require effort and practice. By setting realistic goals, speaking kindly to yourself, and seeking professional help when  needed, you can become more self-compassionate and happier.

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Are you struggling with sleep? Would you like help to sleep well?

by Soul Essence New Eltham

We spend a third of our lives sleeping, yet so many of us struggle to sleep well.  Poor sleep affects every part of our life, from our cognitive ability, sleepless nights leads to 40% less memory storage, weight loss, dieting is affected because our hormones become unbalance, deprived of sleep we lose muscle not fat. Even our immune function is affected, we have a 70% drop-in immune cell activity, after a night of poor sleep. It is said “we are not healthy, if our sleep is not healthy”.

Did you know only 200 years ago before artificial light, Biphasic sleep was common practice? This is the practice of sleeping during two periods over the course of 24 hours making up seven to nine hours sleep, people went to bed at sunset and woke in the early hours 1 and 2 am and were fully awake for approximately an hour, this time was spent praying, interpreting dreams, engaged in sexual activity, writing books and poems, sometimes visiting neighbours, and even milking cows. They would then go back to sleep and get up at sunrise. Now with artificial light, office jobs, and shift work we sleep using a monophasic routine of one approximate 8-hour block of sleep.

If you are someone who wakes up in the early hours wide awake, perhaps your circadian rhythm prefers the Biphasic sleep pattern.  Try getting up and doing something relaxing for an hour reading a book (not on a screen) yoga, or meditating, maybe if you find ironing relaxing or another quiet housework chore you could do these. Then after an hour return to bed and go to sleep. This takes the stress away from looking at the ceiling and feeling guilty because you can’t sleep. Your insomnia may be as simple as accepting this hour or two of wakefulness, put it to good use and then go back to bed. You may need to change the time you go to bed so you can still get 7 to 8 hours sleep.

Using your breath to relax your parasympathetic nervous system.

The parasympathetic part of your autonomic nervous system balances your sympathetic nervous system. While your sympathetic nervous system controls your body’s “fight or flight” response, your parasympathetic nervous system helps to control your body’s response during times of rest.

One breathing exercise which is very good for relaxation is coherent breathing. Breathing in for 5 to 6 seconds and breathing out for 5 to 6 seconds. This gives us the exact 5 to 6 breaths a minute. This is a healthy breathing rate, doing this for 20 minutes a day has many benefits. If you can get your breath to leave a stressed state the other parts of your autonomic nervous system will follow, creating a reaction that will help to reduce stress, anxiety, and related health issues, including insomnia and lack of sleep.

There are many breathing exercises to help you relax so you can sleep.

Many of these will be shown and discussed on my package of meditations to help people sleep starting 12th January 2023 at 8pm. Cost £35 on the 12th of January or £10 per session.

In the new year I will also have a course you can buy to help with sleeping.

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My Soul Journey. Why I started my business Soul Essence back in 2007

Living in New Eltham South East London and watching my dad in the seventies and eighties help relieve people’s pain from arthritis and helping me when I had pain in my back and neck gave me my interest in healing.

While I was training as an Energy Healer, healing became my passion for helping others improve their health, both mental, physical, and spiritual. Throughout the training, we had to work on our own energy blocks and beliefs. It was amazing to see and feel the transformation in our own and others’ lives.

I have constantly learnt new skills to help others since my three-year professional training in Energy Healing, either by reading, attending courses or workshops. I have learnt how to have more control over my lifestyle. How to increase my vibration, connect to my source, depending on your beliefs, you may call source God, Universe, Grace, core, or higher self.

When I first did a meditation in my professional healing training, I struggled so badly, and I thought I would never be able to meditate. I was lovingly encouraged, and I persevered, and each meditation became a little easier. By the end of my training, I had started to enjoy meditation. By 2011, I loved it and began running groups for friends at home, which quickly had more people join and is now online and face to face. Therefore, to all those struggling with meditation, know it is okay for your thoughts to be there, each time it happens, bring your focus back to your breathing or the voice guiding the meditation. The more you do this this, the longer the gaps between thoughts will be, you will slowly be able to go deeper and heal your body.

Working energetically with the body and improving people’s health is so fulfilling. Clearing the energy blocks from peoples learned beliefs, and traumas, seeing them flourish is much more rewarding than working 9-5 in an office. I still had my own blocks to clear like releasing the fear around leaving a secure job and becoming self-employed. Releasing this fear has been the most challenging part of my journey. It is now 2022, and I am still working part-time on my business, Soul Essence. Since the lockdowns and pandemic, I feel like I am starting from the beginning again, thinking about retiring from my 9-5 office career and starting a new phase in my life.

I am writing a series of posts about my life and healing journey. To ensure you hear about the next stage, please follow my blog or Facebook page.

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5 Reasons to meditate and reduce your stress and anxiety.

By Soul Essence New Eltham

Clears your mind.

Meditation helps clear all the jumbled thoughts we constantly have in our heads, possibly causing overload and stress. By meditating, we can relax and focus on the guided meditation or feel and acknowledge our worries, painful memories, thoughts, and emotions and help them dissipate. You can also find the underlying cause of your anxiety.

Relaxation.                                                                                               

Meditation helps you focus on your breathing; by slowing your breathing and using your belly to breathe, you start to relax. Once our bodies start to relax, we feel less stressed and anxious.

Helps you focus.

Firstly, most meditations focus on the breath or a person’s voice for part of the time. If your mind wanders or thoughts come, let them go and bring your focus back to the breath or voice each time. The more you do this the longer you are able to focus before thoughts enter your mind. The more regularly you meditate, the better your ability to focus will become. This will help you be more productive and less stressed.

Helps you sleep better.

Problems with sleep are often due to stress. Stress can cause tension, worry and anxiety, making it hard to fall asleep. By meditating before bed, you will feel more relaxed and calmer, making it easier to get to sleep and improving the quality of your sleep.

Being present in the now.

Living in the past can cause stress and anxiety. We need to remember the past cannot be changed; we can only learn from past experiences. The future has not happened, and we can only change the future by what we do NOW. Therefore, we often feel unhappy, stressed and anxious. We may not even realise it, however constantly living in the past and future can make you feel tired and out of touch with yourself. Meditation can help you stay present and focus on the present moment.

We have a course of meditations to help reduce stress and anxiety, starting Thursday 1st September 2022. The course will be fortnightly at 8 pm.  The cost is £45 for all six sessions or £10 on the night. To check dates click here

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Have you had long Covid? These breathing exercises may help you!

By Soul Essence New Eltham

You can use many breathing techniques to help your lung capacity and help recover from the effects of Long Covid and other illnesses. Some are easy to learn, and some take more practice.

Deep breathing can help the following: –

  • getting oxygen deep into the lungs, which helps you clear out mucus and other fluids.
  • strengthening the diaphragm, a major respiratory muscle located under the lungs.
  • increasing lung capacity by bringing much-needed oxygen into your bloodstream.
  • helping you feel calmer, which may be beneficial for coping with long-term illness and recovery.

We are often not aware we are shallow breathing. Especially when we are concentrating at work, typing at our computer, playing computer games, and even eating our meals. Shallow breathing can increase your chances of anxiety and panic attacks, dry mouth and fatigue, aggravate existing respiratory conditions, and often leads to cardiovascular issues. Considering all this, we can see why taking part in breathing exercises is important.

Meditation is often done by putting your focus on your breathing, particularly when practising Yoga. However, we can do meditation and breathing exercises without necessarily doing Yoga. Breathing exercises may help improve the symptoms of long covid, ongoing stress and anxiety caused by lockdowns and covid symptoms.

Soul Essence runs meditations which help improve your breathing and will also work with you on a one-to-one basis to improve your breathing technique.

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Here are a couple of breathing exercises you can try at home.

Diaphragmatic Breathing (also known as belly breathing when doing Qigong)

You can do this standing, sitting, or lying down

  1. Relax your face, neck, jaw and shoulder muscles through meditation or a relaxation technique.
  2. Rest the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth or behind your top front teeth.
  3. Check your back is straight; support if necessary
  4. Close your eyes if sitting or lying down; if standing, bring your eyes to a soft gaze.
  5. Breathe at your normal pace for a few minutes
  6. Place one hand on your chest and one on your lower abdomen
  7. Breathe deeply in through your nose, feeling your chest and ribs expand. You should feel your belly expand against your hand
  8. Breathe out, feeling your stomach contract inwards
  9. Breathe slowly and deeply this way for 5 to ten minutes

Humming OM when exhaling

  1. Sit upright with your back straight. Use support if necessary
  2. Place your tongue on the roof of your mouth
  3. Keep your mouth/lips closed
  4. Breathe in deeply through your nose, keeping your lips closed.
  5. Keep your shoulders relaxed.
  6. Once lungs are full, exhale humming OM. Make sure you keep your lips closed.
  7. Repeat for several breaths.

If you find these helpful or want to know more about the breathing exercises and meditation I offer, please contact me.

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Spiritual Laws – Law of Purification

There are thirty-six or more spiritual laws that offer excellent ways for us to understand life on earth, some of the following text has been taken from Diana Cooper’s fantastic book “A Little Light on the Spiritual Laws”. I have already briefly explained some of the laws back in 2009. Over the coming weeks I will explain some of the laws of higher frequency. If you find this interesting, I would encourage you to read Diana’s book. I use Diana’s book when I am low or want an answer to a problem. I flick through the book and open it at a law, and more often than not, that is where I need to focus at that time.

The Law of Purification

We all have an aura surrounding us like a cloak. If your essence is pure, it forms a vast light around you, giving you protection. If you have unresolved issues, they show as dirty marks in your aura. If you are ill or in shock, you may have a wispy or non-existent aura. A negative person would have dark colours surrounding them.

When our aura is totally clear and pure, our energy does not attract harm or negativity to us. However, when there is fear in our aura, we attract hurt and danger. The more we evolve the purer our aura and light surrounding us. When someone serves us by pointing out a negative spot in our aura, known as “pressing our buttons”. We often think they are difficult and challenging people. In fact, they are our greatest servants.

Feelings like envy, jealousy, pride, and avarice will create blotches in your aura. These blotches will draw challenges to you, so you become aware of what you need to clear.

All addictions, smoking, alcohol, overeating, gambling, anything you do to suppress feelings, these are actions we repeat to stop us from releasing our emotions. We use up a lot of energy to suppress our feelings, by working with an energy healer, you can release these emotions and clear your aura and energy field.

Quote from Diana Cooper’s book.

A pure aura confers total protection and draws angels towards you.”

Understanding the spiritual laws helps us create a happy and joyous life, energy healing can also help us to follow these laws to create wealth, health and prosperity in our lives, by helping to remove anger, negative beliefs etc.

If you would like to know more about energy healing please contact me

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A new you for 2022 – Learn how you can feel fulfilled in life now?

Are you feeling stuck and experiencing insecurity in your life?

If you are experiencing any of the subjects below, they can be helped by Meditation, Energy healing or Integral core therapy.

  • undecided about what you should be doing with your life
  • wanting a more harmonious family life
  • having a busy, stress-filled lifestyle
  • suffering from self-doubt and fear
  • not being able to achieve your dreams or goals
  • longing to find a meaningful relationship
  • feeling like a victim of your to-do list
  • the same problem repeatedly being experienced in your life
  • feeling lost or stuck in a rut
  • feeling as if you aren’t reaching your full potential
  • feeling burnt out.

Many of the above are caused by energy blocks from childhood or negative beliefs about yourself.

Meditation

Meditation will help bring the block or belief to the surface so you can start to work deeper with energy healing or Integral Core Therapy if you wish. Sometimes just bringing a negative belief to consciousness can be enough. Soul Essence runs fortnightly online meditation classes on Tuesday evenings. I also do one to ones or group sessions at peoples homes. Please remember you do not need to sit crossed legged to meditate a comfortable chair to keep your back straight is all that is required. If you prefer to sit in the lotus position then that is fine also.

Energy Healing

Energy healing will aid the release of suppressed negative energy, that is causing blocks in your energy field, allowing your energy to flow and creating Inner Peace. If these blocks are left they can create anxiety, depression and other mental health problems. The number of sessions required will depend on the cause of the block and how easily you are able to access the block to allow it to release. Stages of a therapy session

Integral Core Therapy

Integral Core Therapy is the spiritual work of Amadis Cammell. The primary intention is to access your core self which is the source of healing, wisdom, strength, and compassion. As your therapist-facilitator, I can support you whilst you are working to resolve childhood issues and access your inner resources. The actual healer, mentor, and guide is your own integral core self.

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Start using meditation today and improve your health now.

Meditation can help ease your pain, anxiety, stress and improve the health of your heart, boost your immune system and mood.

Conditions which are caused or worsened by stress and tension can be helped through meditation. By relaxing in meditation, you lower your blood pressure and improve your heart rate, (please note you must continue to take any medication until your doctor advises you can stop) slows your breathing and brain waves. When your muscles start to relax, they release the tension and tightness. The repetition in meditation is what helps us to relax. As we focus on our breath, letting go of our thoughts, and repeating a mantra, affirmation, or word we become present, and start the relaxation response.

Meditation is not difficult to learn, it is a skill which, you need to practice. After a few weeks of practice, you will be able to get to a relaxed state more quickly. If you relax several times a day, you may find you feel more relaxed during the whole day.

There have been many studies done showing meditation can lower cardiovascular risk, by relaxing and reducing your stress. Poorly managed stress is associated with a risk of high blood pressure and heart disease.

Meditation is an immune booster. Your immune system responds to both negative and positive thoughts, meditation will create a positive mental environment for the immune system to flourish. Meditation stimulates the immune system brain-function regions.

There have been studies where HIV patients slowed down the reduction of their CD-4 cell count, using meditation. The CD-4 cells are the immune cells which keep the virus from propagating.

Knowing if meditation is working. If your body is feeling relaxed, calm, and warm when meditating, you are probably going deep enough for the relaxation response.  If you are struggling to feel these, perhaps join a group to help you.

If you really do not get on with meditation any relaxing technique would be helpful.

If you would like to join a fortnightly group online email Rosemary

How to Believe in Yourself and Bring Success into Your Life

Whatever you want from life, be it better health, a promotion at work, being more creative, you need to believe you can reach the goal.

What is the goal you want to achieve? What are your beliefs about this goal?

Here are some health goals you may consider, getting 7-8 hours of sleep daily, 30-60 minutes of exercise regularly, being free of addictions, and plan daily spiritual timelike yoga or meditation.

Business goals maybe, retain or gain more customers, or start using social media to build your business.

Personal goals maybe, self-development, learn a new skill or hobby, let go of the past, travel, or be more creative.

All of the above goals are much easier to achieve if you to believe in yourself.

If you want to start meditating to gain all the health benefits, you need to believe you can make it happen. If we start by saying it is hard or I can’t do it, I have too many thoughts, we will not get very far with the practise and give up.

Believing in ourselves.

Many of us have negative beliefs from childhood buried in our subconscious. These beliefs often form our negative self-talk and stop us from being successful in life. A good practice is to stand in front of the mirror in the morning, and before you go to bed and listen to your self-talk when a negative thought comes to mind, counteract it with positive words. An example, “I am not creative” simply say, “my creativity is unique and good”. By doing this, you remind yourself of the truth of your abilities before your mind absorbed the negativity in your environment as a child.

If you are often around people who are negative and put you down, start to spend less time with them. Spend time with people who give you encouragement and help. If you do not want to be held back from success, limiting your time with negative people is helpful. Negativity is contagious, like flu.

Only you can believe in yourself, ask yourself, “how would the person I wish to be, act in this situation?” Act like the person you want to be; let go of your self-doubts.   If you would like to learn more about letting go of limiting beliefs holding you back from success or learning how to meditate to improve your life, email Rosemary

17 Affirmations to Help Calm your Anxiety.

Calm your anxiety with affirmations. Using the right affirmations for your anxiety, you will be able to calm your attacks be they take hold. Below are some affirmations to help reduce your anxiety when you are on the verge of an attack. I would suggest keeping a list in your bag or on your phone until this becomes second nature and you have memorised the affirmations.       

How you can calm anxiety attacks with affirmations or mantras

These affirmations bring you into the present and allow you to ground yourself. Repeating positive affirmations or phrases instil these messages in your brain, helping you become calm and in control. Affirmations are really simple and extremely useful to use when your anxiety strikes. Well known mantras are “om”, “om mani Padme hum”, personal mantras could be “I am full of light”, “I belong, I have faith” mantras are most commonly used in meditation and have a more spiritual background. Although I have used these when out walking on my own. Mantras again are repeated frequently in your mind and will immerse you completely in an idea and bring you closer to your goal. Whatever you use to calm your anxiety has to feel right for you.

Challenge your negative thoughts with these affirmations.

To manage our anxiety, we need to learn how to change our anxious thought patterns using affirmations or mantras. When you start to feel your anxiety rising, instead of listening to the negative thoughts your mind immediately gives you, thoughts like, “I am having an anxiety attack” or “I am panicking”, these often lead to negative self-talk like, “I am so stupid, why did I do …….” Or I hate myself. Why do I do …………….”. As soon as you feel an attack coming, start to read your affirmations from your phone or written list. “I am calm”, “I can feel this fear and let it pass”,, and “I am in control”.

Breaking the cycle of anxiety with affirmations

Anxious thought patterns get embedded in the brain each time you experience an anxiety attack. You can either programme your brain to react to the situation with the negative thought patterns creating anxiety or use positive affirmations to reduce your anxiety. Therefore, you can break the cycle of anxiety by using positive affirmations and mantras to rewire your brain through plasticity.

Not using any form of positive strategies like affirmations or mantras, you feed your fear of a situation, confirming to your brain that this situation results in panic. Using affirmations, you lessen the fear, forcing your brain to see this situation is not scary and not needing to release fear and panic and the fight and flight hormones.

Using affirmations can serve as a distraction to your anxiety.

Using affirmations serves as a distraction from your anxiety, giving you something else to focus on. Having positive affirmations in places around your home on your phone as wallpapers take your brain away from the panic. By focusing on these positive affirmations, reciting them, so you memorise them will immediately bring your focus away from the anxiety attack, which will end your attacks quicker after time.

Rewire the brain with positive affirmations

Studies and science have shown that our brains can be rewired by our thoughts. Therefore, positive affirmations and thoughts can change your brain to be more positive and creating less panic. We have all heard of positive thinking and positive self-talk; this is why it is so important. Your mind will always believe what you constantly tell it. Continually affirming you are having a panic attack or will have one, your brain is more likely to make it happen. By repeating to yourself regularly, “I am calm,” your brain is more likely to make this happen. Affirmations can change your life.

Affirmations to use when you are feeling anxious.

Below are some affirmations to use when you feel your anxiety and fear rising. These are short, so they are easier to remember and use: –

  • I am calm and in control”.
  • I feel the fear and let it go”.
  • “I am not defined by my anxiety”.
  • “I let my anxious thoughts flow in one ear and out the other.”
  • “I am okay.”
  • “I am getting through this anxious moment, just as I have done a million times before”.
  • “I am strong and resilient”.
  • “I choose to feel calm and peaceful”.
  • “I have survived this before; I will this survive now”.
  • “I am free from my anxiety. I am in control”.
  • “I am in charge of my breathing, and I can slow it down”.
  • “I can do this”.
  • “I am above stress of any kind”.
  • “I am familiar with these feelings, and they do not scare me”.
  • “I am surrounded by people who understand”.
  • “I am supported, loved and cared for”.
  • “I have the techniques and tools I need to persevere”.

Using affirmations to relieve your anxiety.

Affirmations can be used in meditation while you are out walking when you are not experiencing anxiety. This further helps rewire our brains. There are many ways you can use them. You choose what is best for you. The one rule for helping anxiety is to recite an affirmation at least 10 times or until you feel it resonating with you every time you are feeling anxious wherever you are.

When you have an attack, you can recite the affirmation silently to yourself, read it from your phone or paper list, or sit and write them down. Our brains all work differently, so choose the way feels most comfortable for you. You must keep repeating the affirmations for them to rewire your brain.

The above are only a few affirmations; there are hundreds more online and plenty of apps that will send you an affirmation each day. We are all at different stages of our anxiety, and using affirmations may not be enough for you. If you need more support, please do not hesitate to contact me to support you further. There is lots of help out there, and you do not need to suffer in silence and alone.

If you are already on medication, DO NOT stop taking this without getting advice from your doctor.

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