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Chakras

A new you for 2022 – Learn how you can feel fulfilled in life now?

On By RosemaryIn Alternative Therapy, Healing, Holistic Therapy, Integral Core Therapy, meditation, Natural HealingLeave a comment

Are you feeling stuck and experiencing insecurity in your life?

If you are experiencing any of the subjects below, they can be helped by Meditation, Energy healing or Integral core therapy.

  • undecided about what you should be doing with your life
  • wanting a more harmonious family life
  • having a busy, stress-filled lifestyle
  • suffering from self-doubt and fear
  • not being able to achieve your dreams or goals
  • longing to find a meaningful relationship
  • feeling like a victim of your to-do list
  • the same problem repeatedly being experienced in your life
  • feeling lost or stuck in a rut
  • feeling as if you aren’t reaching your full potential
  • feeling burnt out.

Many of the above are caused by energy blocks from childhood or negative beliefs about yourself.

Meditation

Meditation will help bring the block or belief to the surface so you can start to work deeper with energy healing or Integral Core Therapy if you wish. Sometimes just bringing a negative belief to consciousness can be enough. Soul Essence runs fortnightly online meditation classes on Tuesday evenings. I also do one to ones or group sessions at peoples homes. Please remember you do not need to sit crossed legged to meditate a comfortable chair to keep your back straight is all that is required. If you prefer to sit in the lotus position then that is fine also.

Energy Healing

Energy healing will aid the release of suppressed negative energy, that is causing blocks in your energy field, allowing your energy to flow and creating Inner Peace. If these blocks are left they can create anxiety, depression and other mental health problems. The number of sessions required will depend on the cause of the block and how easily you are able to access the block to allow it to release. Stages of a therapy session

Integral Core Therapy

Integral Core Therapy is the spiritual work of Amadis Cammell. The primary intention is to access your core self which is the source of healing, wisdom, strength, and compassion. As your therapist-facilitator, I can support you whilst you are working to resolve childhood issues and access your inner resources. The actual healer, mentor, and guide is your own integral core self.

Book a session now and improve your health in 2022

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What Causes Blocks in our Energy?

On By RosemaryIn Alternative Therapy, Healing, Holistic Therapy1 Comment

Blocks in our energy are caused by past minor or major trauma.

This could be anything from constantly being told you were stupid as a child, or more serious physical or sexual abuse. Your parents may have had trauma or abuse in their childhood, which was never healed and they did not realise they were passing this on to their children.

My Personal Story.

At eighteen months I was scalded with boiling tea. I climbed on to a chair to pour my dad a cup of tea while he went to answer the door.

I was rushed to the hospital and placed in a cast and secured in a cot so I could not move.  Parents in the early sixties were not allowed to stay with their children in hospital. I am told I cried all evening and kept the ward awake; the nurses could not console me. As a last resort they phoned my mum, and she came down at 11pm and sang me to sleep. I woke the next morning with no one I knew around me again, still in the cast unable to move. I was in this cast for five days, and in hospital for three weeks. My mum always told me I was a different child when I came home. At school I struggled to mix with others.

Later in life, my fiancé was supposed to collect me from hospital after an operation. He didn’t turn up, I waited for half an hour, then decided to get public transport back to his house. When I got there, he was still in bed, and he could not see the problem with not coming to collect me. I felt abandoned yet again! Over the next few years of my life, I was always finding myself in situations where I was on my own. Somehow, I knew there was more to life and I needed to clear this issue of feeling and attracting abandonment.

When I started to train as an Energy Healer, I realised how much I had shut myself down, I worked with my healer for the three years of training clearing my blocks, so I could create a happier life for myself and others.

What happened in your childhood?

Are there circumstances in your past which maybe sabotaging your future. Writing a timeline of your life can can highlight times when you were sad or hurt and there was no one there for you. The situations which bring up strong emotions, could be affecting your life now. Are you constantly experiencing the same problems, you may feel stuck in a rut. If any of this feels how your life is at the moment, download my Ebook about healing the The Wounded Inner Child. or email for more information.

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How a Wounded Inner Child Can Form Addictions

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Addictions

These are habitual patterns of behaviour that feed the wounded inner child.

There are three things a child needs in early life.

Structure – A daily schedule of proper diet, sleep, exercise, and appropriate activities

Stimulation – Plenty of fun, adventure, and excitement because this is how children learn.

Nurturing – Daily doses of time attention, affection and direction.

A lack in any one of these areas can cause an irritable infant with a wounded inner child.

The Child’s Ego

This a network of their wants, needs and feelings. There are three primary needs that drive our behaviour. The need to structure our time in a way that helps us fulfil our need for stimulus (touch, intensity and excitement) and position in the family with validation of what is right and wrong.

Children are by nature impulsive, adventuresome, curious and creative; they also want what they want when they want. The three primary needs are observed in the young child when they do not stick to their schedule, get bored, or do not get enough positive attention or approval.

             

Children who do not get their needs met suffer from the pain of abandonment – something which frequently occurs in dysfunctional families. It, therefore, follows that our child ego is what gets addicted to various activities and objects. When we are in our child ego state we experience ourselves and the world through that part of us.  Inner child authors often refer to this state as the child “driving the bus” in one’s life, which causes considerable pain. Children are not supposed to be in charge of an adult’s life.

Children have little if any impulse control…that’s why we have parents. It’s the Parent ego state that is supposed to keep us out of trouble. If you have ever determined that you were going to stick to a proper diet or begin an exercise program but did not follow through then you have experienced that inner voice that started to chastise you for not doing so — enter the Inner Parent.

It is in our child ego state where bad habits and addictions begin. When the Child takes over “driving the bus” of our life we are heading for a crash. And if our Parent and the Adult Ego States are confined to the back of the bus  you are in for a bumpy ride

Our addictions create shame from the negative consequences of overdoing it with food, drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex and other compulsive addictions. The primary source of shame is our own self-talk which comes from our critical inner voice/parent. We hear things like:-

      • Look what you’ve done now!
      • This is proof that you’ll never amount to anything!
      • You are just a screwed up loser, no good!

We will likely have a strong feeling of not feeling ok, using the addictions to suppress our emotions from our childhood and create more shame and internal critical criticism.

To heal ourselves from these addictions and shame we need to bring the childhood emotions to our consciousness and learn to accept them.

This can be done through energy healing and integral core therapy, for more information on how these can help you contact Rosemary

Are Your Relationships being Sabotaged by Your Inner Child!

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No one gets through their childhood without a degree of wounding, some may continue to be in denial about this.  Staying blind to these wounds will allow them to have a way of unconsciously ruling us. If while growing up you were smothered and overprotected by your parents and you don’t look at this issue, you may overreact to even the slightest amount of control by your spouse. However, when you understand the dynamic with your parents can find the emotional freedom to make different, and healthier, choices. Being vulnerable and communicating your childhood hurts to your spouse. You can let them know what triggers you, what your “inner child” needs. You can then act, rather than only react.

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The wounded inner child – whether from childhood trauma or neglect – tries hard to get our needs for love, care and attention met. This could cause us to use manipulation with people and situations to get our own way, perhaps by becoming overly dependent upon someone else to meet our needs – as if they were our idealised parent.love-1833159_1280

 

Alternatively, if we have given up on our efforts to get our needs for love met by someone else we might then become emotionally cut off and overly self-reliant and super-independent. All of which keep us disconnected from mature love – the very love that could heal our early wounds.

If any of the above rings true to you, you can find more information about the Inner Child in my Ebook or contact me for more information

WHAT IS OUR INNER CHILD?

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Your inner child is the little child you once were who needed to be nurtured and loved, the free spirit you have tamed and controlled? Is it your emotions, sensitivity, creativity that you have controlled, silenced, organized and structured? Or is it the frustrated, confused, anxious, ignored, abused you hidden from view and denied existence so that it causes you to be worried and fearful of mistreatment? Maybe you have replaced the happy, loving, humorous and joyful you with maturity, seriousness and a sophisticated demeanour

Your inner child is the childhood you have forgotten, but it still resides within you in your subconscious and still needs the love, nurturing and healing. Our parents had no idea they helped to create your inner child. Many of us deny we have an inner child. When our inner child is not allowed to be heard or acknowledged as real, we create a false self and start to live as victims, with unresolved emotional trauma leading to anxiety, fear, emptiness, and unhappiness.

It is through healing our inner child, by grieving the wounds that we suffered, so we can change our behaviour patterns. We can release the grief with its rage, shame, terror and pain from our past experiences

We need to make time to nurture, love and be with our inner child. It is necessary to own and honour the child we once were in order to love the person we are now, by owning and honouring our childhood experiences and release the emotional energy that we are carrying within us.

Soul Essence can help release this energy so you can free yourself to love yourself and others and improve your future relationships.

Download my Ebook about Healing the Wounded Inner Child or book a session

How to Heal Your Inner Child

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What is your inner child?

Your inner child is the child you were, with both negative and positive aspects. Our unmet needs, our suppressed childhood emotions along with our childlike innocence, creativity and joy are all still within us.

Our repressed emotions are are the things we learnt to do or to feel to allow our parents to love us. Examples; if you only received attention when you were good, your inner child maybe rebellious, sad or angry. If you were part of trauma or abuse your inner child would hide pain and fear to survive. By accessing your inner child you find the roots of issues or patterns in your life as an adult.

Signs of having a wounded inner child are:

  • Low self-esteem, poor body image
  • Mood and emotional imbalances
  • Problems with boundaries being too rigid or too weak
  • Problems with eating
  • Harming yourself
  • Psychosexual difficulties
  • Identity problems being a rebel/a hoarder/ a bully/ a perennial victim or a super-achiever
  • Intimacy problems
  • Commitment problems
  • A general lack of trust in yourself and others
  • Criminal behaviour, excessive lying
  • Being ‘overly- responsible’ for others
  • Being fiercely competitive and a poor loser
  • Dependencies and addictions
  • Obsessive and needy behaviour
  • Fear of authority figures
  • Being manipulative, passive or aggressive

We are not born with any of these issues, they are created in our subconscious by our environment and people during our informative years. Our informative years between birth and seven years old is the time when we absorb our experiences and are unable to verbalise our thoughts.

We create masks to hold and conceal our low self-esteem, family trauma, secrets and our shame. These are often not spoken about; however, they affect how we were treated by our family and friends. We need to be able to accept that we were shamed, ignored or betrayed by our parents and how this has truly wounded our soul/inner child. Our parents were not bad they were just wounded kids themselves.

We show these masks when we have negative thoughts, emotions, self-doubt or self-loathing that overwhelms us and we are then more likely to turn to drugs, food and alcohol to numb the feelings. Therapy will help you peel off the masks that we created as children to help us survive these experiences; once we begin to do this, we can then live lives without having to numb our feeling and emotions with stimulants.

Things You Can Do Yourself:

  • Take a few moments to think about the happy memories of your childhood.
  • Remind yourself how special you were and still are.
  • When the inner critic voice surfaces, stop… take some deep breaths reply to yourself with a soothing, comforting, nurturing inner voice.
  • Tell the inner child (you as a child) how much she is loved, valued and appreciated.
  • Your inner child has nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of, none of this was her/his fault.
  • Watch loving mothers with their babies and absorb the loving energy.
  • Imagine sitting with your inner child (you as a baby or toddler).
  • Allow the true feelings of your childhood to emerge and let the emotions flow. Let the tears flow and to release the anger hit a pillow.

If doing any of the above brings up anger and shock, then you are on the path to healing, shock is the beginning of grief. Do not feel bad about feeling angry, even if none of your wounding was intentional. Your parents did the best they could as wounded adults themselves.

As victimised children, we must grieve our betrayal and shame, what may have been our dreams or goals in life, and our unfulfilled developmental needs.

We must help our wounded inner child realise there was nothing he/she could have done differently, the pain of what happened to him/her is what needs to be grieved and healed.

When we feel we are bad or contaminated, this shame can lead to loneliness. Our inner child may feel flawed and defective; therefore they cover up their true self, with their mask/defence they used to get through life, creating a false self. Their true self, therefore, feels isolated. As we work on this level through therapy we can embrace the feelings and heal the self that has been in hiding. What we hide from others we hide from ourselves also. In coming to terms with our shame, abandonment and hidden feelings we begin to embrace and love our true self/soul.

If you have more questions, then email me at https://soul-essence.com/contact/

 

Your Core-self

On By RosemaryIn Healing, Integral Core Therapy, WorkshopsLeave a comment

At the centre of your being is your core-self.

Let’s face it, we are all in a relative state of distress. We feel sad, anxious, dissatisfied. We yearn for a happier and an easier life, but often look in the wrong places and end up disappointed because we don’t understand our real needs. We want to feel ‘right’ and for things to ‘make sense’, yet most of the time we don’t realise what we are yearning for is our true core self.

We can think of our core as our authentic state of being before the impact of our life experiences and childhood conditioning took us away from it. It is the truth of who we are.  Place of oneness with all that is, a place of unconditional love, compassion, wisdom, joy, peace, contentment and healing.

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We first experience a painful separation from our core as babies when we realise we are separate from unconditional love. We experience the imperfection of our parents, who can’t give us unconditional love. But felt even more deeply is the separation from the unconditional love of the divine. The source from which we came. Before we had the words to name it, or the reasoning to understand it, we suffered this most cataclysmic experience. This is called our core wound.

Over time our personality, beliefs and behaviours protect us by hiding and denying our core wound and burying it in the unconscious part of our mind, sometimes never to be discovered or understood for a whole lifetime. This ‘contraction’ is the root of all or emotional and psychological pain

Connecting with your core taps into a well of spiritual energy which will nourish and enhance all parts of your life. Every resource we might ever need is found there, already within us. Take a second to let that sink in. How could that realisation transform your life?

When connected to your core, life flows effortlessly. You feel more comfortable in your own skin. You begin to love and trust yourself and to perceive the world as a more supportive, enjoyable place. Regular contact with your core creates a gradual shift to higher level of consciousness.

Our greatest and deepest longing is to return to a place of wholeness, to return to our core.

I will be running workshops in 2017 to help people to connect to their  Core

Visit Soulessenceworkshops.co.uk    or email me for dates and information

Core Realisation

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I completed year two of a five year practitioner Core Realisation course last November with Amadis  Cammell.

Core  Realisation is a relational integral therapy as well as a spiritual facilitation modality.

Relational Integral Therapy (RIT) is the therapeutic application of Core Realisation. It unites practical transpersonal alchemy, spiritual psychology and body-oriented humanistic therapy.  RIT works to remedy the detrimental effects of our conditioning on our body defenses, ego structures and soul fixations. We need to identify how our upbringing compelled us to disconnect from our self, others and life as a whole. It also facilitates ways to access our integral essential spiritual nature and Core Self; we then may realise who we truly are and learn to live from our heart.

RIT is therapeutic as it focuses on healing our inner child, adult personality and soul; relational as it opens us to the “other”; and integral as it connects us to what is essential for wholeness.

There are 3 levels to RIT:

Energetics  work on our soma – the structures, vitality and sentience of our body. This facilitates emotional grounding, psychosomatic healing and embodied spirituality. Energetics comprises oriental energetics and somatic (body oriented) psychology modalities such as Qigong, Deep bodywork, Bioenergetics and core energetics.

Dynamics   work on our psyche and ego – our soul patterns and personal character. This addresses childhood wounds to resolve our personal, familial and communal relationships. Dynamics comprises relational humanistic psychology  therapies and core-centred modalities, such as Energetic Integration, Healing Theatre, and Alchemy of Transformation.

Resources  work with our core – the spiritual, essential and authentic nature of our Self. The premise is that the love, energy, essence and consciousness of our supernal being are the source of all healing meaning and purpose. Resources is born out of spiritual philosophies and practices in the Gnostic, Christic< Sufic, Buddhic and Daoistic traditions; as well as contemporary transpersonal systems such as Chan, Internal Alchemy, Pathwork and Diamond Logos.

Glossary

Transpersonal – extending beyond or transcending the personal

Alchemy – finding the elixir of life

Soma – The body of an individual as contrasted with the mind or psyche.